Companionship or Death: Stories of Relationships in the Talmud
רבי יוחנן ור"ש בן לקיש עבדין הוויי בהדא פירקא תלת שנין ופלוג. אפקון מיניה ארבעין חסר אחת תולדות על כל חדא וחדא.
Rabbi Yohanan and Resh Lakish studied the seventh chapter of Shabbat for three and a half years. For every one of the 39 melakhot of Shabbat, they identified 39 toladot (derivatives).
כי הא דריש לקיש הוה מסדר מתני' ארבעין זמנין כנגד מ' יום שניתנה תורה ועייל לקמיה דר' יוחנן
That is like this practice of Reish Lakish, who would review his studies forty times, corresponding to the forty days in which the Torah was given to Moses at Sinai, and only afterward would he go before Rabbi Yoḥanan to study from his teacher.
והאמר עולא הרואה את ר"ל בבית המדרש כאילו עוקר הרים וטוחנן זה בזה
But doesn’t Ulla say: When one sees Reish Lakish studying Torah in the study hall it is as though he is uprooting mountains and grinding them into each other? Reish Lakish was evidently very sharp in his analyses.
אמר רבי יוחנן אנא אישתיירי משפירי ירושלים האי מאן דבעי מחזי שופריה דרבי יוחנן נייתי כסא דכספא מבי סלקי ונמלייה פרצידיא דרומנא סומקא ונהדר ליה כלילא דוורדא סומקא לפומיה ונותביה בין שמשא לטולא ההוא זהרורי מעין שופריה דר' יוחנן ... שאני ר' יוחנן דהדרת פנים לא הויא ליה
With regard to Rabbi Yoḥanan’s physical features, the Gemara adds that Rabbi Yoḥanan said: I alone remain of the beautiful people of Jerusalem. The Gemara continues: One who wishes to see something resembling the beauty of Rabbi Yoḥanan should bring a new, shiny silver goblet from the smithy and fill it with red pomegranate seeds [partzidaya] and place a diadem of red roses upon the lip of the goblet, and position it between the sunlight and shade. That luster is a semblance of Rabbi Yoḥanan’s beauty. ... Rabbi Yoḥanan is different from these other men, as he did not have a beauty of countenance, i.e., he did not have a beard.
ריש לקיש זבין נפשיה ללודאי שקל בהדיה חייתא וגלגלתא אמר גמירי דיומא בתרא כל דבעי מינייהו עבדי ליה כי היכי דליחול אדמיה יומא בתרא אמרו ליה מאי ניחא לך אמר להו בעינא אקמטינכו ואותבינכו וכל חד מינייכו אמחי' חייתא ופלגא קמטינהו ואותבינהו כל חד מינייהו כד מחייה חד חייתא נפק נשמתיה חרקיניה לשיניה א"ל אחוכי קא מחייכת בי אכתי פש לך גבי פלגא דחייתא קטלינהו כולהו נפק ואתא יתיב קאכיל ושתי אמרה ליה ברתיה לא בעית מידי למזגא עליה אמר לה בתי כריסי כרי
The Gemara recounts a related incident: Reish Lakish sold himself to gladiators. He took a bag and a round stone inside of it with him. He said: There is a tradition that on the final day of a captive’s life, before his captors kill him, they do for him anything that he requests of them, so that he would forgive them for the spilling of his blood. On the final day before they were set to kill him they said to him: What is amenable to you? He said to them: I want to tie you up and have you sit, and I will strike each one of you one and a half times. He tied them up and had each one of them sit. When he struck each of them with one strike with the stone in the bag, the one whom he struck died, because Reish Lakish was of great strength. Reish Lakish gritted his teeth in anger, and said to the one whom he killed, in order to prevent the others from realizing what was happening: Are you laughing at me? You still have half of a strike remaining with me, as I struck you only once. He killed them all, and Reish Lakish escaped his captors. He left and came back home, and after some time had passed he was sitting, eating, and drinking, without concern for his livelihood. His daughter said to him: You don’t want something to lie upon? He said to her: My daughter, my belly is my pillow, and this is enough for me.
Resh Lakish sold himself – This story must have taken place before he did Teshuva, otherwise he wouldn't have treated himself in such a way.
אמר ריש לקיש גדולה תשובה שזדונות נעשות לו כשגגות
Reish Lakish said: Great is repentance, as the penitent’s intentional sins are counted for him as unwitting transgressions
יומא חד הוה קא סחי ר' יוחנן בירדנא חזייה ריש לקיש ושוור לירדנא אבתריה אמר ליה חילך לאורייתא אמר ליה שופרך לנשי א"ל אי הדרת בך יהיבנא לך אחותי דשפירא מינאי קביל עליה בעי למיהדר לאתויי מאניה ולא מצי הדר אקרייה ואתנייה ושוייה גברא רבא יומא חד הוו מפלגי בי מדרשא הסייף והסכין והפגיון והרומח ומגל יד ומגל קציר מאימתי מקבלין טומאה משעת גמר מלאכתן ומאימתי גמר מלאכתן רבי יוחנן אמר משיצרפם בכבשן ריש לקיש אמר משיצחצחן במים א"ל לסטאה בלסטיותיה ידע אמר ליה ומאי אהנת לי התם רבי קרו לי הכא רבי קרו לי אמר ליה אהנאי לך דאקרבינך תחת כנפי השכינה חלש דעתיה דרבי יוחנן חלש ריש לקיש
The Gemara relates: One day, Rabbi Yoḥanan was bathing in the Jordan River. Reish Lakish saw him and jumped into the Jordan, pursuing him. At that time, Reish Lakish was the leader of a band of marauders. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to Reish Lakish: Your strength is fit for Torah study. Reish Lakish said to him: Your beauty is fit for women. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to him: If you return to the pursuit of Torah, I will give you my sister in marriage, who is more beautiful than I am. Reish Lakish accepted upon himself to study Torah. Subsequently, Reish Lakish wanted to jump back out of the river to bring back his clothes, but he was unable to return, as he had lost his physical strength as soon as he accepted the responsibility to study Torah upon himself. Rabbi Yoḥanan taught Reish Lakish Bible, and taught him Mishna, and turned him into a great man. Eventually, Reish Lakish became one of the outstanding Torah scholars of his generation. One day the Sages of the study hall were engaging in a dispute concerning the following baraita: With regard to the sword, the knife, the dagger [vehapigyon], the spear, a hand sickle, and a harvest sickle, from when are they susceptible to ritual impurity? The baraita answers: It is from the time of the completion of their manufacture, which is the halakha with regard to metal vessels in general. These Sages inquired: And when is the completion of their manufacture? Rabbi Yoḥanan says: It is from when one fires these items in the furnace. Reish Lakish said: It is from when one scours them in water, after they have been fired in the furnace. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to Reish Lakish: A bandit knows about his banditry, i.e., you are an expert in weaponry because you were a bandit in your youth. Reish Lakish said to Rabbi Yoḥanan: What benefit did you provide me by bringing me close to Torah? There, among the bandits, they called me: Leader of the bandits, and here, too, they call me: Leader of the bandits. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to him: I provided benefit to you, as I brought you close to God, under the wings of the Divine Presence. As a result of the quarrel, Rabbi Yoḥanan was offended, which in turn affected Reish Lakish, who fell ill.
Your strength for Torah – how suitable is your strength for carrying the burden of Torah.
Your beauty for Women – how suitable is your beauty for women
Was not able – To jump as before, for once he accepted the burden of Torah upon himself, his power was diminished. [As it is written: "The Torah exhausts the power of a person" (Sanhedrin 26b).
הסייף והסכין - משנה היא במס' [כלים] (פי"ד מ"ה):
The sword and the knife – It is a mishna in Tractate Kelim, 14:5
A brigand knows his brigandry – since you were a brigand, you are adept in the way of creating such tools of brigandry
Called me Rabbi – I was the Rabbi and master of all brigand
אתאי אחתיה קא בכיא אמרה ליה עשה בשביל בני אמר לה (ירמיהו מט, יא) עזבה יתומיך אני אחיה עשה בשביל אלמנותי אמר לה (ירמיהו מט, יא) ואלמנותיך עלי תבטחו נח נפשיה דר' שמעון בן לקיש והוה קא מצטער ר' יוחנן בתריה טובא אמרו רבנן מאן ליזיל ליתביה לדעתיה ניזיל רבי אלעזר בן פדת דמחדדין שמעתתיה אזל יתיב קמיה כל מילתא דהוה אמר רבי יוחנן אמר ליה תניא דמסייעא לך אמר את כבר לקישא בר לקישא כי הוה אמינא מילתא הוה מקשי לי עשרין וארבע קושייתא ומפריקנא ליה עשרין וארבעה פרוקי וממילא רווחא שמעתא ואת אמרת תניא דמסייע לך אטו לא ידענא דשפיר קאמינא הוה קא אזיל וקרע מאניה וקא בכי ואמר היכא את בר לקישא היכא את בר לקישא והוה קא צוח עד דשף דעתיה [מיניה] בעו רבנן רחמי עליה ונח נפשיה
Rabbi Yoḥanan’s sister, who was Reish Lakish’s wife, came crying to Rabbi Yoḥanan, begging that he pray for Reish Lakish’s recovery. She said to him: Do this for the sake of my children, so that they should have a father. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to her the verse: “Leave your fatherless children, I will rear them” (Jeremiah 49:11), i.e., I will take care of them. She said to him: Do so for the sake of my widowhood. He said to her the rest of the verse: “And let your widows trust in Me.” Ultimately, Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish, Reish Lakish, died. Rabbi Yoḥanan was sorely pained over losing him. The Rabbis said: Who will go to calm Rabbi Yoḥanan’s mind and comfort him over his loss? They said: Let Rabbi Elazar ben Pedat go, as his statements are sharp, i.e., he is clever and will be able to serve as a substitute for Reish Lakish. Rabbi Elazar ben Pedat went and sat before Rabbi Yoḥanan. With regard to every matter that Rabbi Yoḥanan would say, Rabbi Elazar ben Pedat would say to him: There is a ruling which is taught in a baraita that supports your opinion. Rabbi Yoḥanan said to him: Are you comparable to the son of Lakish? In my discussions with the son of Lakish, when I would state a matter, he would raise twenty-four difficulties against me in an attempt to disprove my claim, and I would answer him with twenty-four answers, and the halakha by itself would become broadened and clarified. And yet you say to me: There is a ruling which is taught in a baraita that supports your opinion. Do I not know that what I say is good? Being rebutted by Reish Lakish served a purpose; your bringing proof to my statements does not. Rabbi Yoḥanan went around, rending his clothing, weeping and saying: Where are you, son of Lakish? Where are you, son of Lakish? Rabbi Yoḥanan screamed until his mind was taken from him, i.e., he went insane. The Rabbis prayed and requested for God to have mercy on him and take his soul, and Rabbi Yoḥanan died.
R. Yohanan's sister – who was Resh Lakish's wife
Cried before him – before R. Yohanan so that he'd pray for her husband
Grieved deeply – he regretted having brought about Resh Lakish's death, for he could never find a learned student like him
Perspectives on Havruta
The Gemara cites other expositions that deal with Torah study. Rabbi Ḥama, son of Rabbi Ḥanina, said: What is the meaning of that which is written: “Iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend” (Proverbs 27:17)? This verse comes to tell you that just as with these iron implements, one sharpens the other when they are rubbed against each other, so too, when Torah scholars study together, they sharpen one another in halakha. Rabba bar bar Ḥana said: Why are matters of Torah compared to fire, as it is stated: “Is not My word like fire, says the Lord” (Jeremiah 23:29)? To tell you: Just as fire does not ignite in a lone stick of wood but in a pile of kindling, so too, matters of Torah are not retained and understood properly by a lone scholar who studies by himself, but by a group of Sages.
אמר רבי ירמיה אמר רבי שמעון בן לקיש שני תלמידי חכמים הנוחין זה לזה בהלכה הקדוש ברוך הוא מקשיב להן שנאמר אז נדברו יראי ה׳ וגו׳ אין דבור אלא נחת ... אמר רבי אבא אמר רבי שמעון בן לקיש שני תלמידי חכמים המקשיבים זה לזה בהלכה הקדוש ברוך הוא שומע לקולן שנאמר היושבת בגנים חברים מקשיבים לקולך השמיעני ואם אין עושין כן גורמין לשכינה שמסתלקת מישראל שנאמר ברח דודי ודמה וגו׳
Rabbi Yirmeya said that Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish said: Two Torah scholars who are agreeable to each other when engaging in discussions of halakha, the Holy One, Blessed be He, listens to them, as it is stated: “Then they that feared the Lord spoke [nidberu] one with another; and the Lord hearkened, and heard, and a book of remembrance was written before Him, for them that feared the Lord, and that thought upon His name” (Malachi 3:16). And the term speech [dibbur] means nothing other than calm ... Rabbi Abba said that Rabbi Shimon ben Lakish said: Two Torah scholars who listen to each other in the discussion of halakha, the Holy One, Blessed be He, hears their voice, as it is stated: “You who dwell in gardens, the companions heed your voice, cause me to hear it” (Song of Songs 8:13). And if they do not do so, i.e., they do not listen to each other, they cause the Divine Presence to depart from among Israel, as it is stated in the following verse: “Run away, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or a young hart upon the mountains of spices” (Song of Songs 8:14).
The Gemara asks: What is the meaning of the phrase “enemies in the gate” with regard to Torah study? Rabbi Ḥiyya bar Abba says: Even a father and his son, or a rabbi and his student, who are engaged in Torah together in one gate become enemies with each other due to the intensity of their studies. But they do not leave there until they love each other, as it is stated in the verse discussing the places the Jewish people engaged in battle in the wilderness: “Therefore it is said in the book of the wars of the Lord, Vahev in Suphah [beSufa], and the valleys of Arnon” (Numbers 21:14). The word “vahev” is interpreted as related to the word for love, ahava. Additionally, do not read this as “in Suphah [beSufa]”; rather, read it as “at its end [besofa],” i.e., at the conclusion of their dispute they are beloved to each other.
וְכָל אָדָם יָכוֹל לְקַיֵּם זֹאת, לְהַעֲמִיד תַּלְמִידִים. כִּי כְּשֶׁשְּׁנַיִם מְדַבְּרִים יַחַד בְּיִרְאַת שָׁמַיִם, אֲזַי כְּשֶׁאֶחָד מֵאִיר לַחֲבֵרוֹ בְּאֵיזֶה דִבּוּר, נֶחֱשָׁב חֲבֵרוֹ אֶצְלוֹ בְּחִינַת תַּלְמִיד. וְלִפְעָמִים נַעֲשֶׂה לְהֶפֶךְ, דְּהַיְנוּ כְּשֶׁאַחַר־כָּךְ הוּא מְקַבֵּל מֵחֲבֵרוֹ אֵיזֶה דִבּוּר, אֲזַי נַעֲשֶׂה הוּא בִּבְחִינַת תַּלְמִיד לְגַבֵּי חֲבֵרוֹ. וְצָרִיךְ כָּל אָדָם לִזָּהֵר, לְהִשְׁתַּדֵּל וְלַעֲסֹק בָּזֶה, כִּי לֹא תֹהוּ בְרָאָהּ לָשֶׁבֶת יְצָרָהּ (ישעיה מה), כִּי צָרִיךְ כָּל אֶחָד לַעֲסֹק בְּיִשּׁוּבוֹ שֶׁל עוֹלָם, שֶׁיִּהְיֶה הָעוֹלָם מְמֻלָּא מִבְּנֵי אָדָם, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (בראשית א): וּמִלְאוּ אֶת הָאָרֶץ, כִּי זֶה עִקָּר יִשּׁוּב הָעוֹלָם, כְּשֶׁהָעוֹלָם מְמֻלָּא מִבְּנֵי אָדָם, הַיְנוּ מִבְּנֵי דֵּעָה.
And every person can raise great students! For when two people are conversing together about their relationships with God, then when one of them illuminates/makes something shine for his companion in something he says, then his companion is considered at that moment like a student. And sometimes it is the opposite – that later the first one will receive from his friend some word that shines, and then he will become like a student of his companion. And every person must dedicate time and effort to occupy themselves in this (raising students), for “God did not create the world to be chaos, rather for it to be populated” (Isaiah 45) – for every person must populate the world, that it should be full of human beings, as it is written “fill the earth” (Genesis 1) – for this is the essential act of populating the world: when it is full of human beings, i.e. full of people of knowledge.