A Burning Question: Are Cremations (and Embalming) Kosher?

An ancient burial cave, dating from the 5th century BCE, smack by one of Israel's busiest traffic arteries, the Ayalon Highway. (Moshe Gilad)

Cremation and Judaism “on one foot”:

Cremation is the act of burning a body after that person has died. From a Jewish perspective, there are separate questions here in terms of what Jewish tradition says about whole-body burial vs. cremation, and how to respond when Jewish families are aware of the Jewish perspective and choose to ignore it.

The Torah’s View on Whole-Body Burial vs. Cremation

(כג) לֹא־תָלִ֨ין נִבְלָת֜וֹ עַל־הָעֵ֗ץ כִּֽי־קָב֤וֹר תִּקְבְּרֶ֙נּוּ֙ בַּיּ֣וֹם הַה֔וּא כִּֽי־קִלְלַ֥ת אֱלֹהִ֖ים תָּל֑וּי וְלֹ֤א תְטַמֵּא֙ אֶת־אַדְמָ֣תְךָ֔ אֲשֶׁר֙ יְהֹוָ֣ה אֱלֹהֶ֔יךָ נֹתֵ֥ן לְךָ֖ נַחֲלָֽה׃ {ס}
(23) you must not let the corpse remain on the stake overnight, but must bury it the same day. For an impaled body is an affront to God: you shall not defile the land that your God יהוה is giving you to possess.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Deuteronomy, from a section about criminals who commit capital offenses. One can reason that if a person who committed a heinous crime should be buried promptly, all the more so (“kal vachomer”) a regular person should be buried. The reasoning seems to be not desecrating a body that was created in the image of G-d (Rashi on this verse, citing Sanhedrin 46b:5).

(יט) בְּזֵעַ֤ת אַפֶּ֙יךָ֙ תֹּ֣אכַל לֶ֔חֶם עַ֤ד שֽׁוּבְךָ֙ אֶל־הָ֣אֲדָמָ֔ה כִּ֥י מִמֶּ֖נָּה לֻקָּ֑חְתָּ כִּֽי־עָפָ֣ר אַ֔תָּה וְאֶל־עָפָ֖ר תָּשֽׁוּב׃

(19) By the sweat of your brow Shall you get bread to eat, Until you return to the ground— For from it you were taken. For dust you are, And to dust you shall return.”

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Genesis. It comes from the punishment after Adam and Eve mess up in the Garden of Eden. This is not the pro-cremation text that it might seem, because while the text is clear that you are to return to the dust that makes up the ground, in reality cremation remains never decompose.

(ג) וַיָּ֙קׇם֙ אַבְרָהָ֔ם מֵעַ֖ל פְּנֵ֣י מֵת֑וֹ וַיְדַבֵּ֥ר אֶל־בְּנֵי־חֵ֖ת לֵאמֹֽר׃ (ד) גֵּר־וְתוֹשָׁ֥ב אָנֹכִ֖י עִמָּכֶ֑ם תְּנ֨וּ לִ֤י אֲחֻזַּת־קֶ֙בֶר֙ עִמָּכֶ֔ם וְאֶקְבְּרָ֥ה מֵתִ֖י מִלְּפָנָֽי׃
(3) Then Abraham rose from beside his dead, and spoke to the Hittites, saying, (4) “I am a resident alien among you; sell me a burial site among you, that I may remove my dead for burial.”

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Genesis, after Abraham’s wife Sarah dies. This is the origin of having specific Jewish burial areas. Nowhere in Genesis 23 does it say that Abraham burned Sarah, so the most logical explanation is that Abraham buried Sarah’s entire body.

(כט) וַיְצַ֣ו אוֹתָ֗ם וַיֹּ֤אמֶר אֲלֵהֶם֙ אֲנִי֙ נֶאֱסָ֣ף אֶל־עַמִּ֔י קִבְר֥וּ אֹתִ֖י אֶל־אֲבֹתָ֑י אֶ֨ל־הַמְּעָרָ֔ה אֲשֶׁ֥ר בִּשְׂדֵ֖ה עֶפְר֥וֹן הַֽחִתִּֽי׃ (ל) בַּמְּעָרָ֞ה אֲשֶׁ֨ר בִּשְׂדֵ֧ה הַמַּכְפֵּלָ֛ה אֲשֶׁ֥ר עַל־פְּנֵי־מַמְרֵ֖א בְּאֶ֣רֶץ כְּנָ֑עַן אֲשֶׁר֩ קָנָ֨ה אַבְרָהָ֜ם אֶת־הַשָּׂדֶ֗ה מֵאֵ֛ת עֶפְרֹ֥ן הַחִתִּ֖י לַאֲחֻזַּת־קָֽבֶר׃ (לא) שָׁ֣מָּה קָֽבְר֞וּ אֶת־אַבְרָהָ֗ם וְאֵת֙ שָׂרָ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֔וֹ שָׁ֚מָּה קָבְר֣וּ אֶת־יִצְחָ֔ק וְאֵ֖ת רִבְקָ֣ה אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וְשָׁ֥מָּה קָבַ֖רְתִּי אֶת־לֵאָֽה׃ (לב) מִקְנֵ֧ה הַשָּׂדֶ֛ה וְהַמְּעָרָ֥ה אֲשֶׁר־בּ֖וֹ מֵאֵ֥ת בְּנֵי־חֵֽת׃

(29) Then he instructed them, saying to them, “I am about to be gathered to my kin. Bury me with my ancestors in the cave which is in the field of Ephron the Hittite, (30) the cave which is in the field of Machpelah, facing Mamre, in the land of Canaan, the field that Abraham bought from Ephron the Hittite for a burial site— (31) there Abraham and his wife Sarah were buried; there Isaac and his wife Rebekah were buried; and there I buried Leah— (32) the field and the cave in it, bought from the Hittites.”

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Genesis, where Jacob is at the end of his life and giving final instructions. This text shows that whole-body burial was important to the founders of Judaism. It is also noteworthy that Jacob died in Egypt, but it was permissible to transport his body to be buried in a place of his choosing.

(ה) וַיָּ֨מׇת שָׁ֜ם מֹשֶׁ֧ה עֶבֶד־יְהֹוָ֛ה בְּאֶ֥רֶץ מוֹאָ֖ב עַל־פִּ֥י יְהֹוָֽה׃ (ו) וַיִּקְבֹּ֨ר אֹת֤וֹ בַגַּי֙ בְּאֶ֣רֶץ מוֹאָ֔ב מ֖וּל בֵּ֣ית פְּע֑וֹר וְלֹא־יָדַ֥ע אִישׁ֙ אֶת־קְבֻ֣רָת֔וֹ עַ֖ד הַיּ֥וֹם הַזֶּֽה׃
(5) So Moses the servant of יהוה died there, in the land of Moab, at the command of יהוה. (6) [God] buried him in the valley in the land of Moab, near Beth-peor; and no one knows his burial place to this day.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Deuteronomy, at the very end of the Torah. We know from earlier in the Torah (Leviticus 10:2) that G-d is capable of sending fire which burns bodies. Yet here, G-d doesn’t do that before burying Moses. It seems that if G-d is the Ultimate Role Model (Sotah 14a:5) then the example being set is that of burying bodies without burning them first.

The Rest of the Bible’s Views on Cremation vs. Whole-Body Burial

(טו) וְהָיָה֙ הַנִּלְכָּ֣ד בַּחֵ֔רֶם יִשָּׂרֵ֣ף בָּאֵ֔שׁ אֹת֖וֹ וְאֶת־כׇּל־אֲשֶׁר־ל֑וֹ כִּ֤י עָבַר֙ אֶת־בְּרִ֣ית יְהֹוָ֔ה וְכִֽי־עָשָׂ֥ה נְבָלָ֖ה בְּיִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃

(15) Then he who is indicated for proscription, and all that is his, shall be put to the fire, because he broke the Covenant of GOD and because he committed an outrage in Israel.”

​​​​​​​Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Joshua, describing how after the Battle of Jericho, somebody looted the city against strict orders not to do so. It is clear from the end of the story (Joshua 7:25) that the person was killed by stoning and then burned, thus making cremation a fate for a criminal who committed a very very serious crime.

(א) כֹּ֚ה אָמַ֣ר יְהֹוָ֔ה עַל־שְׁלֹשָׁה֙ פִּשְׁעֵ֣י מוֹאָ֔ב וְעַל־אַרְבָּעָ֖ה לֹ֣א אֲשִׁיבֶ֑נּוּ עַל־שׇׂרְפ֛וֹ עַצְמ֥וֹת מֶלֶךְ־אֱד֖וֹם לַשִּֽׂיד׃

(1) Thus said GOD: For three transgressions of Moab, For four, I will not revoke the decree: Because he burned the bones Of the king of Edom to lime.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Amos, a prophet from the village of Tekoa (in the Southern Kingdom of Judah, near the Dead Sea) who prophesied to the Northern Kingdom of Israel around 760-755 BCE. Here it seems that burning a person’s bones is considered a terrible thing to do.

(ח) וַֽיְהִי֙ מִֽמׇּחֳרָ֔ת וַיָּבֹ֣אוּ פְלִשְׁתִּ֔ים לְפַשֵּׁ֖ט אֶת־הַחֲלָלִ֑ים וַֽיִּמְצְא֤וּ אֶת־שָׁאוּל֙ וְאֶת־שְׁלֹ֣שֶׁת בָּנָ֔יו נֹפְלִ֖ים בְּהַ֥ר הַגִּלְבֹּֽעַ׃ (ט) וַֽיִּכְרְתוּ֙ אֶת־רֹאשׁ֔וֹ וַיַּפְשִׁ֖טוּ אֶת־כֵּלָ֑יו וַיְשַׁלְּח֨וּ בְאֶֽרֶץ־פְּלִשְׁתִּ֜ים סָבִ֗יב לְבַשֵּׂ֛ר בֵּ֥ית עֲצַבֵּיהֶ֖ם וְאֶת־הָעָֽם׃ (י) וַיָּשִׂ֙ימוּ֙ אֶת־כֵּלָ֔יו בֵּ֖ית עַשְׁתָּר֑וֹת וְאֶת־גְּוִיָּתוֹ֙ תָּֽקְע֔וּ בְּחוֹמַ֖ת בֵּ֥ית שָֽׁן׃ (יא) וַיִּשְׁמְע֣וּ אֵלָ֔יו יֹשְׁבֵ֖י יָבֵ֣ישׁ גִּלְעָ֑ד אֵ֛ת אֲשֶׁר־עָשׂ֥וּ פְלִשְׁתִּ֖ים לְשָׁאֽוּל׃ (יב) וַיָּק֜וּמוּ כׇּל־אִ֣ישׁ חַ֘יִל֮ וַיֵּלְכ֣וּ כׇל־הַלַּ֒יְלָה֒ וַיִּקְח֞וּ אֶת־גְּוִיַּ֣ת שָׁא֗וּל וְאֵת֙ גְּוִיֹּ֣ת בָּנָ֔יו מֵחוֹמַ֖ת בֵּ֣ית שָׁ֑ן וַיָּבֹ֣אוּ יָבֵ֔שָׁה וַיִּשְׂרְפ֥וּ אֹתָ֖ם שָֽׁם׃ (יג) וַיִּקְחוּ֙ אֶת־עַצְמֹ֣תֵיהֶ֔ם וַיִּקְבְּר֥וּ תַחַת־הָאֶ֖שֶׁל בְּיָבֵ֑שָׁה וַיָּצֻ֖מוּ שִׁבְעַ֥ת יָמִֽים׃ {פ}

(8) The next day the Philistines came to strip the slain, and they found Saul and his three sons lying on Mount Gilboa. (9) They cut off his head and stripped him of his armor, and they sent them throughout the land of the Philistines, to spread the news in the temples of their idols and among the people. (10) They placed his armor in the temple of Ashtarot, and they impaled his body on the wall of Bet-shan. (11) When the inhabitants of Yavesh-gilad heard about it—what the Philistines had done to Saul— (12) all their stalwart men set out and marched all night; they removed the bodies of Saul and his sons from the wall of Bet-shan and came to Yavesh and burned them there. (13) Then they took the bones and buried them under the tamarisk tree in Yavesh, and they fasted for seven days.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of 1 Samuel, describing the aftermath of the battle where King Saul was killed fighting the Philistines. Because the text says that the bodies were burned but the bones were buried, there have been different explanations for the burning that happened. Perhaps they lit a bonfire of mourning at the death of the king, and then they buried the bodies. Perhaps they scorched the flesh with pungent spices (revocalizing "saraf" as "sarap"), or perhaps the bodies had become maggot-infested and so it was considered a desecration to bury the entire body. The other version of this story (1 Chronicles 10:12) doesn't say that any burning happened at all, just that the bodies were buried. What all the interpretations have in common is that because Deuteronomy makes it clear that burial should be done for the dignity of the deceased, any burning of the body would only be done if that would add to the dignity of the body.

(ה) בְּשָׁל֣וֹם תָּמ֗וּת וּֽכְמִשְׂרְפ֣וֹת אֲ֠בוֹתֶ֠יךָ הַמְּלָכִ֨ים הָרִאשֹׁנִ֜ים אֲשֶׁר־הָי֣וּ לְפָנֶ֗יךָ כֵּ֚ן יִשְׂרְפוּ־לָ֔ךְ וְה֥וֹי אָד֖וֹן יִסְפְּדוּ־לָ֑ךְ כִּֽי־דָבָ֥ר אֲנִֽי־דִבַּ֖רְתִּי נְאֻם־יְהֹוָֽה׃ {ס}

(5) You will die a peaceful death; and as burnings were burned for your ancestors, the earlier kings who preceded you, so they will burn burnings for you, and they will lament for you ‘Ah, lord!’ For I Myself have made the promise—declares GOD.”

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Jeremiah, who lived 655-586 BCE and prophesied primarily in Jerusalem as the Babylonians were drawing near and then destroying the city. Here he is talking to King Zedekiah about how the king will be captured but will die a peaceful death in Babylonia. It’s likely that the “burnings” that happened for the kings of Judah upon their death refers to burning of incense and not of the bodies; if it was the bodies being burned, it was out of honoring the dead.

(יח) מֵרֹ֣ב עֲוֺנֶ֗יךָ בְּעֶ֙וֶל֙ רְכֻלָּ֣תְךָ֔ חִלַּ֖לְתָּ מִקְדָּשֶׁ֑יךָ וָאוֹצִא־אֵ֤שׁ מִתּֽוֹכְךָ֙ הִ֣יא אֲכָלַ֔תְךָ וָאֶתֶּנְךָ֤ לְאֵ֙פֶר֙ עַל־הָאָ֔רֶץ לְעֵינֵ֖י כׇּל־רֹאֶֽיךָ׃

(18) By the greatness of your guilt, Through the dishonesty of your trading, You desecrated your sanctuaries. So I made a fire issue from you, And it has devoured you; I have reduced you to ashes on the ground, In the sight of all who behold you.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Ezekiel (who lived in Babylonia during the Exile and prophesied 593-571 BCE), where he is prophesying against Tyre. It seems that having a fire devour you is not a positive fate.

(יח) וְשַׁבְתֶּם֙ וּרְאִיתֶ֔ם בֵּ֥ין צַדִּ֖יק לְרָשָׁ֑ע בֵּ֚ין עֹבֵ֣ד אֱלֹהִ֔ים לַאֲשֶׁ֖ר לֹ֥א עֲבָדֽוֹ׃ {פ}
(יט) כִּֽי־הִנֵּ֤ה הַיּוֹם֙ בָּ֔א בֹּעֵ֖ר כַּתַּנּ֑וּר וְהָי֨וּ כׇל־זֵדִ֜ים וְכׇל־עֹשֵׂ֤ה רִשְׁעָה֙ קַ֔שׁ וְלִהַ֨ט אֹתָ֜ם הַיּ֣וֹם הַבָּ֗א אָמַר֙ יְהֹוָ֣ה צְבָא֔וֹת אֲשֶׁ֛ר לֹא־יַעֲזֹ֥ב לָהֶ֖ם שֹׁ֥רֶשׁ וְעָנָֽף׃ (כ) וְזָרְחָ֨ה לָכֶ֜ם יִרְאֵ֤י שְׁמִי֙ שֶׁ֣מֶשׁ צְדָקָ֔ה וּמַרְפֵּ֖א בִּכְנָפֶ֑יהָ וִיצָאתֶ֥ם וּפִשְׁתֶּ֖ם כְּעֶגְלֵ֥י מַרְבֵּֽק׃ (כא) וְעַסּוֹתֶ֣ם רְשָׁעִ֔ים כִּֽי־יִהְי֣וּ אֵ֔פֶר תַּ֖חַת כַּפּ֣וֹת רַגְלֵיכֶ֑ם בַּיּוֹם֙ אֲשֶׁ֣ר אֲנִ֣י עֹשֶׂ֔ה אָמַ֖ר יְהֹוָ֥ה צְבָאֽוֹת׃ {פ}

(18) And you shall come to see the difference between the righteous and the wicked, between those who have served God and those who have not. (19) For lo! That day is at hand, burning like an oven. All the arrogant and all the doers of evil shall be straw, and the day that is coming—said GOD of Hosts—shall burn them to ashes and leave of them neither stock nor boughs. (20) But for you who revere My name a sun of victory shall rise to bring healing. You shall go forth and stamp like stall-fed calves, (21) and you shall trample the wicked to a pulp, for they shall be dust beneath your feet on the day that I am preparing—said GOD of Hosts.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Malachi. Malachi prophesied in Jerusalem after the Jews returned from Babylonia; the things he refers to puts his prophesies around 432-420 BCE. This text comes from the end of his book (and the Haftarah for Shabbat HaGadol, right before Passover), when he talks about the day that Elijah will announce the coming of the Messiah. Again, it seems that being burnt to ashes is not a positive fate.

A Recap of the Bible’s Take on Whole-Body Burial vs. Cremation

- People should be buried, whether they are criminals or Patriarchs and Matriarchs.

- Burial is done out of honoring the dead (who are created in the image of G-d)

- Even G-d uses burial when needing to deal with a body.

- Unless you are doing it out of honoring the body, burning bodies either leads to bad things or is a punishment for bad things.

Cremation vs. Whole-Body Burial in the Post-Biblical Sources

(ג) .... וַחֲכָמִים אוֹמְרִים, כָּל מִיתָה שֶׁיֶּשׁ בָּהּ שְׂרֵפָה, יֶשׁ בָּהּ עֲבוֹדָה זָרָה. וְשֶׁאֵין בָּהּ שְׂרֵפָה, אֵין בָּה עֲבוֹדָה זָרָה....

(3) ...And the Rabbis say: Every death that includes public burning is a festival that includes idol worship, and any death that does not include public burning is not a festival that includes idol worship. ....

Context: This is from the Mishnah, Masechet (Tractate) Avodah Zarah, which is about idolatry. The Mishnah is trying to figure out which non-Jewish practices are considered idolatry so as to avoid aiding and abetting in idolatry. According to the Mishnah, it is idolatrous to burn dead bodies. In 105 CE, around the time Mishnah was being composed, the Roman historian Tacitus wrote in "Histories" that Jews "bury rather than burn their dead" (Histories 5:5).

ולא זו בלבד כו': א"ר יוחנן משום ר"ש בן יוחי מנין למלין את מתו שעובר עליו בל"ת ת"ל כי קבר תקברנו מכאן למלין את מתו שעובר בלא תעשה
§ The mishna teaches that everyone, not only an executed transgressor, must be buried on the day of his death, if that is at all possible. Rabbi Yoḥanan says in the name of Rabbi Shimon bar Yoḥai: From where is it derived that one who leaves his deceased relative overnight without burying him transgresses a prohibition? The verse states: “But you shall bury him [kavor tikberennu]” (Deuteronomy 21:23), doubling the verb for emphasis. From here it is derived that one who leaves his deceased relative overnight without burying him transgresses a prohibition.

Context: This is from the Babylonian Talmud, Masechet (Tractate) Sanhedrin, which is about criminal law. Here they are talking about what happens after somebody commits a capital offense. The Talmud (500 CE) concludes that it is a commandment (mitzvah) to bury the dead. This is then reiterated by Maimonides (1200 CE) in his list of the commandments (Sefer HaMitzvot, Positive Commandments 231), Sefer HaChinukh (537:1), and in the Shulchan Aruch (1563 CE) (Yoreh De'ah 362:1).

רב אשי אמר אבילות מאימתי קא מתחלת מסתימת הגולל

Rav Ashi says: When does the obligation of mourning a deceased relative commence? It begins from the time of the sealing of the grave with the grave cover.

Context: This is from the same section of the Babylonian Talmud. It suggests that there is a connection between burial and mourning. This might not be as starkly true in the case of cremation, as you don’t have the same finality of hearing the earth hitting the coffin.

בָּרִאשׁוֹנָה הָיוּ מוֹצִיאִין עֲשִׁירִים בְּדַרְגֵּשׁ, וַעֲנִיִּים בִּכְלִיכָה, וְהָיוּ עֲנִיִּים מִתְבַּיְּישִׁין. הִתְקִינוּ שֶׁיְּהוּ הַכֹּל מוֹצִיאִין בִּכְלִיכָה, מִפְּנֵי כְּבוֹדָן שֶׁל עֲנִיִּים.בָּרִאשׁוֹנָה הָיְתָה הוֹצָאַת הַמֵּת קָשָׁה לִקְרוֹבָיו יוֹתֵר מִמִּיתָתוֹ, עַד שֶׁהָיוּ קְרוֹבָיו מַנִּיחִין אוֹתוֹ וּבוֹרְחִין. עַד שֶׁבָּא רַבָּן גַּמְלִיאֵל וְנָהַג קַלּוּת רֹאשׁ בְּעַצְמוֹ, וְיָצָא בִּכְלֵי פִשְׁתָּן, וְנָהֲגוּ הָעָם אַחֲרָיו לָצֵאת בִּכְלֵי פִשְׁתָּן. אָמַר רַב פָּפָּא: וְהָאִידָּנָא נְהוּג עָלְמָא אֲפִילּוּ בְּצַרְדָּא בַּר זוּזָא.

Additionally, at first the wealthy would take the deceased out for burial on a decorative couch, and the poor would take the deceased out on a plain bier made from poles that were strapped together, and the poor were embarrassed. The Sages instituted that everyone should be taken out for burial on a plain bier, due to the honor of the poor.Likewise, at first taking the dead out for burial was more difficult for the relatives than the actual death, because it was customary to bury the dead in expensive shrouds, which the poor could not afford. The problem grew to the point that relatives would sometimes abandon the corpse and run away. This lasted until Rabban Gamliel came and acted with frivolity, meaning that he waived his dignity, by leaving instructions that he be taken out for burial in linen garments. And the people adopted this practice after him and had themselves taken out for burial in linen garments. Rav Pappa said: And nowadays, everyone follows the practice of taking out the dead for burial even in plain hemp garments that cost only a dinar.

Context: This is from the Babylonian Talmud, Masechet (Tractate) Moed Katan, which is about mourning. It shows the historic Jewish concern for bringing costs down for funerals and also why plain pine coffins, which are ecologically friendly and decompose, are the traditional Jewish practice.

הא איתמר עלה אמר עולא דבר תורה עור אדם טהור ומאי טעמא אמרו טמא גזרה שמא יעשה אדם עורות אביו ואמו שטיחין לחמור
The Gemara explains that it was stated with regard to that mishna that Ulla said: By Torah law, the skin of a dead person is ritually pure. And what is the reason the Sages said that it is impure? It is a rabbinic decree lest a person should fashion rugs for a donkey out of the skins of his deceased father and mother.

Context: This is from the Babylonian Talmud, Masechet (Tractate) Niddah, which is about ritual purity. There is a discussion about various body parts and whether or not they transmit impurity after the person has died. This text suggests that it is abhorrent to make things out of the remains of a deceased love one, both because of the honor of the dead and also because people should be seen as ends in themselves, not means to make something else. This has bearing on the question of what one should and shouldn't do with the ashes of somebody who has died.

(א) הַהֶסְפֵּד כְּבוֹד הַמֵּת הוּא. לְפִיכָךְ כּוֹפִין אֶת הַיּוֹרְשִׁין לִתֵּן שְׂכַר מְקוֹנְנִים וְהַמְקוֹנְנוֹת וְסוֹפְדִין אוֹתוֹ. וְאִם צִוָּה שֶׁלֹּא יִסְפְּדוּהוּ אֵין סוֹפְדִין אוֹתוֹ. אֲבָל אִם צִוָּה שֶׁלֹּא יִקָּבֵר אֵין שׁוֹמְעִין לוֹ. שֶׁהַקְּבוּרָה מִצְוָה שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (דברים כא כג) "כִּי קָבוֹר תִּקְבְּרֶנּוּ":

(1) Funeral rites are held in honor of the deceased. Accordingly, the heirs are compelled to pay a fee to wailing men and women who eulogize the dead. But if the deceased charged in his will not to eulogize him, he should not be eulogized. If, however, he charged in his will not to bury him, his wish is not heeded, because burying the dead is a religious duty, as it is written: "You must bury him" (Deuteronomy 21:23).

Context: This is from Maimonides’ (1138-1204) Mishneh Torah, where he reorganizes the rulings in the Talmud so they are easier to find. What’s new and relevant about this text is that it talks about what to do if a parent says that they don’t want to be buried (which today would probably mean cremated). One of the factors at play here is that burial provides closure for the living — hearing the earth hit the coffin is very final.

(ד) וְחוֹפְרִין בַּעֲפַר מְעָרוֹת וְעוֹשִׂין כּוּךְ בְּצַד הַמְּעָרָה וְקוֹבְרִין אוֹתוֹ בּוֹ וּפָנָיו לְמַעְלָה. וּמַחְזִירִין הֶעָפָר וְהָאֲבָנִים עָלָיו. וְיֵשׁ לָהֶן לִקְבֹּר בְּאָרוֹן שֶׁל עֵץ. וְהַמְלַוִּין אוֹתוֹ אוֹמְרִין לוֹ לֵךְ בְּשָׁלוֹם שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (בראשית טו טו) "וְאַתָּה תָּבוֹא אֶל אֲבֹתֶיךָ בְּשָׁלוֹם". וּמְצַיְּנִין אֶת כָּל בֵּית הַקְּבָרוֹת וּבוֹנִין נֶפֶשׁ עַל הַקֶּבֶר. וְהַצַּדִּיקִים אֵין בּוֹנִים לָהֶם נֶפֶשׁ עַל קִבְרוֹתֵיהֶם שֶׁדִּבְרֵיהֶם הֵם זִכְרוֹנָם. וְלֹא יִפְנֶה אָדָם לְבַקֵּר הַקְּבָרוֹת:

We bury the corpse with its face upward; we then place the earth and the stones back in place above it. They may bury it in a wooden coffin. Kessef Mishna: and in the final chapter of Kilayim (9:1) Rebbi instructed that coffins have holes that are connected to the earth...

Context: Also from the Mishneh Torah. This text has relevance to the idea of a “green funeral”, suggesting that coffins are not mandatory for Jewish burial.

(א) הַנּוֹתֵן מֵתוֹ בְּאָרוֹן וְלֹא קְבָרוֹ בַּקַּרְקַע, עוֹבֵר מִשּׁוּם מֵלִין אֶת הַמֵּת. וְאִם נְתָנוֹ בְּאָרוֹן וּקְבָרוֹ בַּקַּרְקַע, אֵינוֹ עוֹבֵר עָלָיו, וּמִכָּל מָקוֹם יָפֶה לְקָבְרוֹ בַּקַּרְקַע מַמָּשׁ, אֲפִלּוּ בְּחוּץ לָאָרֶץ.

One who places his deceased in a coffin but does not bury him in earth transgresses [the prohibition of] "leaving the deceased overnight."... In any event, it is good to truly bury him in soil, even outside Israel.

Context: This is from the Shulchan Aruch, the 1563 code of Jewish law by Rabbi Joseph Caro. It is relevant to the practice of burying ashes from a cremation.

(א) דיני מת בשבת ושאר טלטול מן הצד ובו ט סעיפים:
מת שמוטל במקום שירא עליו מפני הדליקה אם יש ככר או תינוק מטלטלו על ידיהם ואם אין לו ככר או תינוק אם יש לו שתי מטות מטלטלו על ידי שיהפכנו ממטה למטה דהוה טלטול מן הצד ואם אין לו לא זה ולא זה מטלטלו טלטול גמור

(1) 1. Laws of Corpses and Tiltul Min HaTzad, 9 Seifim: A corpse lying in a place where there is fear from fire, if bread or a child is available, he may be carried with them. If bread or a child is not available and he has two beds, he may relocate the body by tipping it from one bed to another, because it is Tiltul min hatzad, טלטול מן הצד (Indirect Movement). If he has neither, he may carry the body directly.

Context: This is from the Shulchan Aruch again. Here there is a concern about carrying, which is generally not done on Shabbat. However, it’s more important to not let a corpse burn. Thus, if you can carry a dead body in a “better way” that’s great, but it’s most important to not let it burn, even if this means breaking Shabbat.

So Jewish Tradition Seems Firmly Anti-Cremation -- Why Do Some Jews Want It?

The biggest reason is that it is less expensive. Going with a cremation can be $1-3,000, while a traditional funeral can be $8-10,000. The second reason biggest is that it is considered more ecologically friendly, though traditional Jewish funerals avoid many of those problems by not embalming and only using a plain pine coffin instead of rare hardwoods with jewels or metal caskets.

Other reasons that people prefer cremations include: Not taking up space in cemeteries, it being seen as easier on surviving family members (less complicated, more flexibility in timing for memorial service), not liking the idea of lying in the ground or decaying after death, and more options for what happens with the ashes (keep at home, scatter in a specific spot, turn into art, divide among loved ones).

And What are the Reasons Not To Cremate?

There are many reasons why people would not want to be cremated. The first has to do with permanence — it’s easier for many people to feel a loved one’s presence when there is something permanent, rather than an ephemeral spirit that might be there in a place where ashes were scattered years before. Even if somebody keeps an urn of ashes to try to maintain that sense of permanent presence, urns get lost in a way that gravestones don’t. Connected to this is the value that future generations not yet born might find in the information on a gravestone. Genealogical records on paper get lost, and those on the computer might become unreadable as technology advances (floppy disks and Letter Perfect, for example). Those who are interested in knowing about previous generations from their family can’t get dates of life from a cremation urn.

The second reason is ecological. Crematoria use huge amounts of fossil fuels and release toxic substances into the air: visible emissions, particulate matter, carbon monoxide, nitrogen oxide, sulfur dioxide, hydrogen chloride, metals (mostly mercury from dental fillings), dioxins, and furans. If we are concerned about air pollution when we are alive, it would be hypocritical to send those values up in smoke. It is better for our bodies to decompose, bringing nutrients back into the earth. Moreover, the fact that cemeteries take up space is precisely their benefit, because they preserve open and green space in a time when buildings are taking over more and more open space.

Third, there is the idea that our bodies are created in the image of G-d, and for people who want to treat bodies respectfully, it seems better to treat them like we treat a Torah scroll that is done with its lifespan.

Finally, while this is not something that people think about ahead of time usually, choosing whole-body burial avoids some of the conflicts that come up with trying to decide what to do with the ashes -- if one person wants to split them and other people want to bury all of them, for example, that can lead to issues. There are usually far fewer questions about what to do with an entire body.

Plus the biggest reason for many — the Holocaust

Night, by Elie Wiesel (1958), p. 34

Never shall I forget that night, the first night in the camp, that turned my life into one long night seven times sealed.

Never shall I forget that smoke.

​​​​​​​ Never shall I forget the small faces of the children whose bodies I saw transformed into smoke under a silent sky.

​​​​​​​ Never shall I forget those flames that consumed my faith forever.

​​​​​​​ Never shall I forget the nocturnal silence that deprived me for all eternity of the will to live.

​​​​​​​ Never shall I forget those moments that murdered my God and my soul and turned all my dreams to ashes.

​​​​​​​ Never shall I forget those things, even were I condemned to live as long as God Himself.

Never.

A Good Video Recap with Some New Thoughts Too

What Actually Happens in a Cremation?

​​​​​Note: You might find this gross, but if you are considering cremation you should know what happens

1. Paperwork must be filled out. There needs to be a death certificate signed, and a medical examiner must approve that there’s no need to do an autopsy on the body (because there’s no going back once you start, unlike a burial). Next of kin must also fill out a form authorizing the cremation. Most states have a 24-48 hour waiting period between death and cremation to make sure everything can happen that needs to. During this time, the body is lying in a temperature-controlled room.

2. The body is prepared. Pacemakers are removed so they don’t explode. Metal implants like knee or hip replacements are left in at this point. Jewelry is either removed or not, depending on the family’s wishes. The crematorium is heated to 1,100 degrees Fahrenheit, and the body is put into a flammable box, either cardboard or a wooden coffin.

3. The body is burned. Once the body (and box) is put in the oven, called a retort, the door is sealed. The body is subjected to a jet-enginelike column of flame, aimed at the torso. The heat ignites the container and dries the body, which is composed of 75 percent water. As the soft tissues begin to tighten, burn and vaporize from the heat, the skin becomes waxy, discolors, blisters and splits. The muscle begins to char, flexing and extending limbs as it tightens. The bones, which are the last to go, become calcified as they are exposed to the heat and begin to flake or crumble. An average human body takes from two to three hours to burn completely and will produce an average of 3 to 9 pounds of ash. The amount of ash depends usually on the bone structure of the person and not so much their weight.

4. The bones are then ground up. After the chamber cools, what’s left are bones and metal such as dental fillings. The metal is picked up with a magnet. The bones and remnants are put into a grinder (called a cremulator) that uses ball bearings or rotating blades, like a blender. The remains are pulverized and poured into a container. The “ashes” (really ground up human bone) can then be mailed or picked up by the family.

https://science.howstuffworks.com/cremation.htm; https://www.meadowmemorials.com/blog/what-is-a-cremation

What if somebody wants to be cremated but have their ashes buried in a Jewish cemetery?

It depends who you ask. Many Orthodox authorities will say no, though the United Synagogue of London Burial Society will allow ashes to be buried if they are in a coffin. Conservative rabbis will most likely officiate at a memorial service with the body present before it has been cremated, though if they have been told that somebody has been cremated and their rabbinic presence is requested at the cemetery for burial of the ashes they are likely to agree. See here for the ruling of the Conservative Committee on Jewish Law and Standards: https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/assets/public/halakhah/teshuvot/19861990/shapiro_cremation.pdf. Most Reform rabbis will say yes; see here for their current thinking: https://www.ccarnet.org/responsa-topics/when-a-parent-requests-cremation/.

One option for cremated ashes is the columbarium, a wall where there are individual spots for urns. Sometimes there is glass in front, sometimes there is a non-see-through cover that makes up the wall. Not every Jewish cemetery offers this, but more are doing so.

What About Embalming?

The short answer is: Only if necessary for transportation (so if the body won’t be buried within 3 days). It’s better to bury promptly, and we want the body to return to dust sooner that the 100 years that it can take for embalmed bodies to decompose. Besides, nobody is seeing the body being shown in an open casket.

(ב) וַיְצַ֨ו יוֹסֵ֤ף אֶת־עֲבָדָיו֙ אֶת־הָרֹ֣פְאִ֔ים לַחֲנֹ֖ט אֶת־אָבִ֑יו וַיַּחַנְט֥וּ הָרֹפְאִ֖ים אֶת־יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃ (ג) וַיִּמְלְאוּ־לוֹ֙ אַרְבָּעִ֣ים י֔וֹם כִּ֛י כֵּ֥ן יִמְלְא֖וּ יְמֵ֣י הַחֲנֻטִ֑ים

(2) Then Joseph ordered the physicians in his service to embalm his father, and the physicians embalmed Israel. (3) It required forty days, for such is the full period of embalming.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Genesis, right after Jacob dies in Egypt. Joseph, Jacob's son, was the second-in-command of Egypt at the time, so this can be seen as "Embalming because government regulations require it".

(כו) וַיָּ֣מׇת יוֹסֵ֔ף בֶּן־מֵאָ֥ה וָעֶ֖שֶׂר שָׁנִ֑ים וַיַּחַנְט֣וּ אֹת֔וֹ וַיִּ֥ישֶׂם בָּאָר֖וֹן בְּמִצְרָֽיִם׃
(26) Joseph died at the age of one hundred and ten years; and he was embalmed and placed in a coffin in Egypt.

Context: This is from the Biblical Book of Genesis, this time the very last verse of the book. Joseph requested that his body be buried in the Land of Israel when the Israelites left (Genesis 50:24-25). This could be seen as "Embalming because of transportation over long distance and length of time until burial".

A Guide to Religious Practice, by Rabbi Isaac Klein (1992)

While there are instances of embalming in the Bible (see Gen. 50:26), the later authorities forbade the practice because it involves Nivul Hamet [Desecration of the Dead - DS] and infringes on Kevod Hamet [Respect for the Dead - DS} and the preservation of the body.

Today, for sanitary reasons and by requirement of the civil law, it sometimes becomes necessary to embalm a body. In such cases embalming is permitted as Kevod Hamet, i.e. to prevent putrefaction from setting in and to keep the body from becoming malodorous. Since in most cases burial no longer takes place on the day of death, this is now almost always necessary. The only method that is permitted in such cases, however, is one that leaves the body intact (Gesher Hachayyim 1:73; Kol Bo ‘al Aveilut, p. 51).

Embalming is also permitted when burial must be delayed, as, for example, when the body is shipped a long distance, or if a person dies at sea and the delay is intended to prevent the usual burial at sea. If the method used in such cases involves removing parts of the body, as, for instance, when the blood is drawn out, these should be buried in their container (ibid, and Law Committee Archives; Gesher Hachayyim , 1:95-96).

- P. 276

The Jewish Mourner’s Book of Why, by Alfred J. Kolatch (1996)

Why did the Rabbis of the Talmud object to embalming?

Embalming — preserving the remains of the deceased by draining off the blood from the body and discarding it — was once practiced by Jews. The procedure was common among Egyptians and, in fact, in the Bible (Genesis 50:2-3 and 50:26) both Jacob and his son Joseph when they died in Egypt.

The practice was still carried out in Second Temple times, as we learn from the writings of the first-century historian Josephus. In describing the death of Aristobulus II, King of Judea (67-63 B.C.E.), Josephus writes: His dead body also lay for a good while embalmed in honey till Anthony afterwards sent it to Judea and caused him to be buried in the Royal sepulchre. (Antiquities of the Jews XIV 7:4)

The Rabbis of the Talmud, however, objected to embalming for two reasons. First, they considered it to be disrespectful to the dead and banned the practice unless there is sufficient reason to do otherwise. Second, they felt that embalming retards the swift decomposition of the body, thereby delaying its return to the earth whence it came.

Why do contemporary Jewish authorities sometimes permit embalming?

Embalming is generally permitted today whenever government regulations require it and whenever the body cannot be buried within three days. For three days, refrigeration of the body is adequate to retard deterioration, but when burial is delayed because the body must be transported to another city, injection of embalming fluids is necessary to slow down deterioration and obfuscate foul odors.

Jewish authorities are careful to warn that the blood and the organs removed during the embalming process must be saved in a container and ultimately be buried in the coffin together with the corpse. (See Tuktzinsky’s Gesher Hachayyim, Volume 1, p. 73, and Lamm’s Jewish Way in Death and Mourning, pp. 16-19, for more detailed information).

- P. 22-23

The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning, by Rabbi Maurice Lamm (2000)

[Executive Summary: It’s usually forbidden with good reason, but sometimes it’s OK for specific reasons - DS]

The procedure of embalming was instituted in ancient times to preserve the remains of the deceased. Preservation was desired for many reasons: for sanitation purposes — the assumption being that the decayed remains were a hazard to health; for sentimental reasons — the family feeling that it wanted to prevent deterioration of the physical body as a comforting illusion that the deceased still lived; and for presentability — to avoid visible signs of decay while the deceased was being viewed by the public prior to the funeral service.

It is worthwhile to analyze the three reasons in order to determine their validity today. First, however, it should be clear that there is no state law in the United States that requires the deceased to be embalmed, except when the body is to be carried by public conveyance for long distances.

Is there a sanitary purpose for embalming? From all available evidence, the unembalmed body presents no health hazard, even though the deceased may have died from a communicable disease. Dr. Jesse Carr, quoted in The American Way of Death by Jessica Mitford, indicates that there is no legitimate sanitation reason for embalming the deceased for a funeral service under normal circumstances.

Do reasons of respect and love warrant embalming to preserve the remains as long as possible? Many relatives feel, naturally, that they wish to hold on to their beloved in his human form for as long as possible. If this is the major purpose of the embalming, several points should be taken into consideration:

1. The body will keep, under normal conditions, for twenty-four hours, unless it has been autopsied. If it is kept refrigerated, as is the standard procedure, it will unquestionably keep until after the funeral service.

2. The body must eventually decompose in the grave. Under optimum conditions, even were the embalming fluids to retard the deterioration of the outer form for a considerable length of time, reliable reports of reinterments indicate that the remains soon become sickening to behold and totally unnatural, as a consequence of the embalming. Indeed, if anything, the rabbis speak of of the desire of many to place chemicals on the body to speed disintegration, because with this comes expiation, Divine forgiveness. Embalming, whose purpose is delay, runs totally counter to Jewish tradition.

3. Sentiment should attach to the person as he lived his life, as he appeared during years of good health, not to the corpse as it appears while entombed. The deceased himself undoubtably would want his loved ones to remember him as he was during the peak of his lifetime.

The prohibition of embalming for the purpose of viewing the deceased is considered in a separate chapter later in the book.

There still is great confusion today about the entire process of embalming. The general public understands little about the methods of embalming and little about “restoring”, or cosmetology, a process used by the funeral industry for propping, primping, berouging, and dressing the remains to be placed on view. There is little doubt that if there family were aware of the procedures they might be too horrified to request it. A detailed description is available in Jessica Mitford’s The American Way of Death.

The guiding religious ideal in regard to embalming is that a person upon his demise should be laid to rest naturally. There should be no mutilation of his body, no tampering with his remains, and no handling of the body other than for religious purification. Disturbance of the inner organs, sometimes required during the embalming process, is strictly prohibited as a desecration of the image of God. The deceased can in no wise benefits from this procedure. So important is this principle, that Jewish law prohibits the embalming of a person even where he has specifically willed it.

It is not a sign of respect to make lifelike a person whom God has taken from life. The motive for embalming may be the desire to make the funeral a last gift, or a lasting memorial, but surely mourners must realize that this gift and this memorial are only illusionary. The art of the embalmer is the art of complete denial. Embalming seeks to create an illusion, and to the extent that it succeeds, it only hinders the mourner from recovering from his grief. It is, on the contrary, an extreme dishonor to disturb the peace in which a person should be permitted to rest eternally.

It is indeed paradoxical that Western man, nourished on the Christian concept of the sinfulness of the body, which is considered the prison of the soul, should, in death, seek to adorn it and make it beautiful. Surely, the emphasis on the body in the funeral service serves to weaken the spiritual primacy and traditional religious emphasis on the soul.

There are, however, several exceptions to the general prohibition of embalming. These are:

1. When a lengthy delay in the funeral service becomes unavoidable.

2. When burial is to take place overseas.

3. When governmental authority demands it.

In these cases, all required because of health regulations, Jewish law permits certain forms of embalming. Rabbinic authority must be consulted to determine the permissibility of embalming and the method to be used. One method frequently used is freezing. This is an excellent, modern, clean method of preserving the body.

The injection of preservative fluid, without the removal of the organs of the body, frequently has been used. If the blood has been released from the veins, it should be collected in a receptacle, which should then be buried with the body. Bloodied clothes, worn by those killed accidentally or by violence, should be buried with the body. The blood is considered part of the human being, and even in death they are not to be separated. As time goes on, and our knowledge of chemistry advances, other methods may be developed that Jewish law will consider legitimate.

The foregoing paragraphs are only general guidelines and do not offer specific dispensation. Specific cases require individual attention and special permission from competent religious authority.

- P. 16-19

With appreciation to: Tzvi Sinensky (his sheet “End of Life in Judaism #8: Cremation was particularly informative), Gabe Greenberg, Hadar Institute Responsa Radio, David Zinner, Jacob Fine, Ari Elias-Bachrach, Rabbi Ruhi Sophia Rubenstein, David Siff

Appendix A: Water Cremations / Alkaline Hydrolysis

Pro-AH Jewish Perspective - Rabbi Jeremy Kalmanofsky

Hydrolysis literally means “decomposition in water,” and is marketed as “green”
“flameless” or “water cremation.” Those may sound like slick slogans but they are not
misleading. Cremation and alkaline hydrolysis [AH] have the same basic idea: dissolving
the body in an external medium. Instead of intense heat, AH uses a solution of 95 percent
water and 5 percent alkali, either sodium hydroxide or potassium hydroxide. The body is
submerged in the solution and – depending on how high the temperature and pressure –
the body’s soft tissue dissolves within three to 12 hours, washing into an inert, sterile
solution, which can be discharged safely into municipal sewer systems. AH leaves a residue of decollegenated and disarticulated bones. AH proprietors Brandon Ross of Biosafe Engineering and Steven Schaal of Matthews International inform me in email
communication [Dec. 4, 2015 and Jan. 5, 2016] that they cannot guarantee how much of the skeleton would remain intact. But some bones certainly survive the process.


Although there are few commercial providers, alkaline hydrolysis is legal for human use in 11 American states, including some with significant Jewish populations: Florida, Georgia, Illinois, Maryland and Minnesota. The first commercial AH provider was Anderson-McQueen in St. Petersburg, FL, which began offering the service in 2011.


Many people react instinctively to AH with disgust. Perhaps many would agree with the
2013 statement by the Catholic Conference of Ohio, arguing successfully to ban AH in that state: “Dissolving bodies in a vat of chemicals and pouring the resultant liquid down the drain is not a respectful way to deal with human remains.” Our traditional Jewish
reverence for the body might awaken in us a similar sense that this method is a kind of
,בזיון or contempt, not a loving return to God’s earth.


However, of all the proposed alternative technologies, AH finds the greatest textual
precedent, albeit in medieval technology. R. Solomon ibn Adret [Responsa 1.369, cited by Beit Yosef to YD 363 and R. Moshe Isserles YD 363.2] relates that a person instructed his children to bury him in a distant family tomb. When the death came, they were unable to make the trip, so they buried him temporarily at home. By the time they were ready to make the journey, decomposition was too advanced and the smell too bad. Could they pour lime on the body to speed decomposition, so they could transport the bones sooner? Rashba agreed: “Whatever is done to accelerate the decomposition of the flesh, for the purpose of taking him to the place he had instructed, is permitted … There is no disrespect in this.” Rashba’s approach should be understood against the background of the ancient two-stage burial, in which the flesh is not abandoned to public disgrace as it breaks down, and the essential burial happens to the bones. In contemporary AH, while some bone matter would be dissolved, the process would yield bones one could bury amid family plots in much smaller graves. It seems to me that AH permits a 21st century version of ליקוט עצמות.


Other posekim develop Rashba’s argument to legitimate this practice לכתחילה. R. David ibn Zimra [Responsa 1.484] relates an aggadic view that when the biblical spies claim that the Holy Land “eats its inhabitants” [Num 13.32], they mean to say that Palestine quickly consumes the flesh of those buried there, shortening their purgatory, ushering them into paradise sooner. Some diaspora Jews wanted to mimic that effect by putting lime in their coffins. Radbaz condemns a stratagem for avoiding divine judgment, finding that the righteous should let “nothing but time” affect decomposition. Nonetheless, he declares the practice permissible: “The principle is that anything done for the honor or benefit of the dead is not to be considered disgraceful.”


Radbaz’s case was not an aberration. Jerusalem’s Sefardic 18th and 19th century rabbinic
elite applied chemicals to dissolve the flesh of their corpses. R. Yosef Molkho [Shulhan
Gavoha, to YD 362 n.2], relates that when he moved from Salonika to Jerusalem in 1748 he found this common practice among the rabbinic class: “I, the author, have witnessed here in Jerusalem that great sages and pious people have commanded before their deaths that a tefah of lime be put all around their bodies, above and below and on each side, to speed the decomposition. And so have I commanded in my will that they should do the same to me.” See also Shvut Yaakov 2.97, who permits applying lime to accelerate bodies’ decomposition during a 1713 plague, enabling burial among family tombs within cities, rather than in unsettled woods. Radbaz extends the point in another responsum [2.611] about transporting bodies for burial in the Holy Land. He notes that m. Shekalim 8.2 describes tools employed during secondary burial, including a rake
One might think raking scattered bones and smashing them so they fit into .]מריצה[ and mortar ]מגריפה[containers (as Rambam understands מריצה, contra the Yerushalmi) would be forbidden, Radbaz says; but even such ungentle treatment is permitted if it facilitates a respectful final burial: “It is obvious that whatever is done for the benefit of the dead is not considered disgraceful, but in fact, an honor.” Hakham Bashi R. Hayim Avraham Gagin [1787-1848] reports this approvingly in his collection of Jerusalem customs [Sefer HaTakanot v’Haskamot u’Minhagim, YD #87].


This practice is not identical to today’s AH. But it is surprisingly close. While in one the
flesh breaks down into earth and in the other it liquefies into a solution, the common factor is that the flesh is not abandoned to abject public putrefaction, and the processes yield bones that come to rest in the earth. The posekim did not require that flesh decompose in a “natural” manner, unaided by human agency.35 A further similarity is that the family considers its actions as gestures of honor. We might think there are invariant Judaic yard sticks of honor or disgrace, but as R. Moshe Feinstein wrote, “honor or disgrace should be evaluated based on the intention of the actors” [Iggerot Moshe YD 1.247]. Thus, the propriety of mortuary methods depends at least partly upon mourners’ intentions. If people bury the bones in a family tomb in a Jewish cemetery, it seems clear they intend to honor their loved one.

AH should be regarded as Halakhically comparable to cremation: discouraged as a
deviation from Jewish tradition, and cogent only according to the minority view that burial is not actually a requirement, but not technically forbidden. In fact, while individuals may sense more revulsion, more subjective “ick-factor,” from a Judaic standpoint AH seems preferable to cremation. AH has no associations with Auschwitz, which makes cremation particularly repugnant to Jews today. Also, in addition to the precedents of Rashba, Radbaz and the Jerusalem sages, AH is greener than cremation, using much less energy. And while cremation produces only powdery ash, AH offers the real possibility of burying human bones amid family graves, the very act that was, in ancient Palestine, the culminating burial act.


To sum up: We should always recommend in-ground burial, which fulfills both Jewish
tradition and likely a biblical norm. We should discourage AH as departing from ancestral practice and failing to uphold what is likely a biblical commandment. But especially if AH is performed in ways that maximize surviving bone matter, which should be buried among family members in a Jewish cemetery, it is not technically forbidden, and is preferable to cremation. Even if the bone matter is crushed and powdered (as AH customers may request), it should be buried, as the CJLS ruled in 1986 and confirmed in 2015 regarding cremains. Discarding scattering ashes without burial or dedicating a memorial to a person’s life would be inappropriate.


An additional note about speedy disposition: if a family chooses AH, it still should execute this disposition and then bury the bones as quickly as possible, to avoid the prohibition against leaving the dead unburied. If the family will collect the bones immediately after AH and bury them at once, shiva would begin once burial occurs. If there would be some delay before final burial, shiva would begin once the family had “turned its face from the dead,” that is when members had no more immediate action to take to dispose of their loved one’s remains, such as having delivered the body to AH processors.

https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/alternative-burial-jeremy-kalmanofsky.pdf

Anti-AH Jewish Perspective - Rabbi Daniel Nevins

Although Rabbi Kalmanofsky has demonstrated that there are some halakhic authorities
who would attenuate the pervasive rabbinic objections to cremation and other non-
traditional treatments of Jewish bodies, we find it impossible to dismiss concerns of nivul
or bizayon—showing disrespect for human remains. This is especially so for the still
largely-theoretical process of Alkaline Hydrolysis (AH), which strikes us as a severe
dishonor of the dead in that it leads to the flushing of the majority of human remains into the sewage system. As members of Jewish burial societies (hevra kaddisha) know,
enormous care is taken to bury even bloody garments with the deceased (tucked discretely in the bottom of the casket). All human remains, including blood and other fluids, are buried in the earth, not only the bones.


The precedent cited by Rabbi Kalmanofsky from the Rashba, et al, to permit the placement of lime in the earth to accelerate decomposition does not, in our humble opinion, support the practice of AH. The Rashba’s practice resulted in the decomposition of all remains into the earth, not their flushing into a sewage drain. We see no reason to give support, even begrudging, to a disrespectful practice of disposing human remains, which is not even in current practice. Cremation is not much better—it also leads to the evaporation and combustion of most of the body, though it at least does not flush human remains into the sewer.

https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/2011-2020/concurrence_on_rjk_alternative_kevurah_2017.pdf

Pro-AH Perspective - Rabbi Elliot Dorff

Finally, I disagree with Rabbi Nevins and agree with Rabbi Kalmanofsky on Alkaline Hydrolysis (AH). Again, this is not my first choice, nor is it that of Rabbi Kalmanofsky. Still, because this process preserves at least some of the person’s bones that can be buried, it is for me a form of the collection of bones (likkut atzamot) that Rabbi Kalmanofsky demonstrated to be an ancient Jewish burial custom. So I agree with him that AH, while not a preferable form of burial (min ha-muvhar), is acceptable (muttar).

https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/cjls/concurrence_to_jeremy_kalmanofsky_-_dorff_.pdf

Appendix B: Burial of Cremated and Embalmed Soldiers During WWII

(1) Question:

(2) A veteran died in the Japanese Prisoner of War Camp at Osaka, October 19, 1945, and the U.S. Army asked of our committee the following questions:

(3) a. Does Jewish law permit cremation?

(4) b. Does Jewish law permit burial of cremated bodies in a Jewish cemetery?

(5) c. Is there any requirement of a special place in this cemetery where the urn is to be buried?

(6) d. Can the urn be buried separately, or must it be buried in a casket?

(7) e. Do you have a regulation size grave or a smaller grave?

(8) f. Do you have a similar service as in all other services for repatriated bodies?

(9) Answer:

(10) The general question of cremation and the Jewish law does not need to be restudied. The overwhelming opinion is that cremation is forbidden, although it should be noted that Michael Higger in the last essay of his book, "Halachos Va'aggados," re-examines the entire relevant Talmudic and post-Talmudic material in order to prove that cremation is permitted. However, almost all other opinions declared it prohibited.

(11) As to the burial in a Jewish cemetery of the ashes of one who has been cremated, there is less unanimity of opinion. Most of the opinions prohibiting such burial were collected by Meir Lerner of Altona, Germany, in his book, "Chaye Olam". However, the opposite side of this question was taken by his contemporary, Simon Deutsch of Fuerth, in the book "Or Ho-emeth".

(12) Furthermore, an absolute permission for the burial of the ashes of the cremated is given in the booklet on the subject, "Ya'aney Boesh", by the great Italian rabbi, Elijah ben Amozegh. In this booklet, the bulk of which is devoted to proving that cremation is forbidden by Jewish law, he ends by saying, however, that not only is it permitted to bury the ashes, but that it is even a mitzvah to rescue for burial as much of the body as possible, in this case, the ashes.

(13) It is not necessary for us to decide the moot question as to whether burial of cremated ashes is in general permitted since the burial of the ashes of this soldier forms a special case and there will be other special cases like it. This soldier was not cremated by the United States Army, which does not practice cremation, but by the Japanese in the prison camp where he died. In this case the situation of the ashes is exactly the same as the situation of the ashes of those who were murdered by the Nazis and whose ashes were sent to the nearest of kin by them. They belong to the category described by Maimonides in "Hilchos Ovel," I:9, namely those who are killed by heathen governments (Malchuth Akum) and are not to be deprived of any of the rituals involved in mourning or burial. (Ain monin mehem kol dovor.) These soldiers, victims of enemy cruelty, whose bodies were cremated without their prior consent or the consent of their relatives, must not be deprived of any of the traditional Jewish rites.

(14) Moreover, in order not to give the impression that the burial of the ashes of the cremated is to be permitted in general, we advise that the urn be placed in a regular sized coffin and buried in a regular size grave. Besides, for the sake of diminishing the grief (agmath nefesh) of the relatives, it is better if a regular coffin is used and no difference be made from other funerals of the repatriated dead.

(15) We have been informed that in the case of the ashes of the soldier mentioned above, the military authorities had agreed to put the ashes in a container and the container into a regular coffin. There is certainly no reason why the container should be removed from the coffin. The coffin, as it is delivered, should be buried with the regular ritual used for all repatriated dead.

(1) Question:

(2) Should we ask the Graves Registration Service to preserve the blood taken from the bodies of embalmed Jewish soldiers and bury the blood with the body? (It is standard procedure of the American Graves Registration Service of the United Kingdom to embalm the bodies of deceased soldiers.)

(3) Answer:

(4) The question whether the blood which comes from the body a considerable time after death is to be buried with the body or is simply to be washed away in the tahara is an undecided question in Jewish law. Maharsham (quoted by Greenwald in Ach L'tsarah, page 33) says that the blood should be buried. However, Pitche Teshuvah to Yore Deah (364,#5, section 6) says that postmortem blood (as, for example, blood which comes from the body of a drowned man) should be washed away and need not be buried. Pitche Teshuvah's opinion is based upn Chinuch beth Jehuda (#95). Since the question of the burial of the postmortem blood seems to be undecided in Jewish law, the CANRA, confronted with an emergency wartime situation, will not insist that the Graves Registration Services in the United Kingdom follow the procedure of the burial of the blood. This is, however, only a wartime emergency decision, and does not presume to be a general decision of the question which is still unsettled.

Appendix C: Top 10 Reasons for Ground Burial

Reasons for Ground Burial — An Alphabetical Acrostic

By: David Zinner

Exploring Jewish Reasons for Ground Burial - An Alphabetic Acrostic

By David Zinner

This article represents that position of the author and does not necessarily represent the position of the Jewish Funeral Practices Committee of Greater Washington or Kavod v'Nichum.

Many Jews are asking if cremation is an acceptable alternate to in-ground burial. Isn't cremation simple and inexpensive? Isn't cremation quick and the least burden on my children? Jewish educators and funeral homes serving Jews report rapid increases in Jews asking about, and asking for, cremation.

While there are no firm statistics on Jewish cremation, there are cremation statistics for the overall population of Canada and the United States. Cremation after death rose in the U.S. from 21% in 1996 to 26% in 2000. Projections 25 years out are that 50% of all deaths will end in cremation. Canadian rates of cremation are much higher, already at 40% in 1996 and increasing steadily. We can only assume that Jewish cremation rates are following the statistical trend of the U.S. and Canada.

The probable increasing rate of Jewish cremation in the U.S. and Canada raises serious concerns about the tradition of Jewish burial and the survival of Jewish communal cemeteries. Cremation also has profound implications for Judaism and the Jewish community's treatment of the dead and the bereaved.

Traditional sources offer little in-depth thinking about cremation. For example, Rabbi Abner Weiss addresses cremation in a total of 15 lines of a 400 page Halachic guide to Death and Bereavement. He says that cremation is a "tragic commentary on the erosions of Jewish norms and values". While Rabbi Maurice Lamm devotes a full page to cremation, his discussion starts and ends with the statement that "Cremation is never permitted."

This article provides ten talking points that explore the burial vs cremation question from different angles. The discussion is arranged as an alphabetic acrostic, a traditional form of Jewish writing. One of the more famous Hebrew alphabetic acrostics is the Ashamnu (we have acted wrongly), from the Viddui (confession) of the Yom Kippur (Days of Awe) liturgy.

There are additional articles on this subject on the Jewish Funerals, Burial and Mourning web site.

1. Atmospheric - We no longer burn leaves because of overuse of fossil fuels and problems with air pollution. When we cremate bodies we put visible emissions, particulate matter, carbon monoxide, nitrogen oxide, sulfur dioxide, hydrogen chloride, metals (mostly mercury from dental fillings), dioxins and furans into the air. Burial returns what God has given us to the earth, not the sky.

2. Biological - Decomposition is a natural process that builds the soil. The bacteria that aid in digestion while we are living are instrumental in our decomposition after we die.

3. Communal - Cremation in the U.S. and Canada is usually done privately in a crematorium, with no witnesses or ceremony. On the other hand, burial is usually done with community participation. The ritual of accompanying the deceased to burial, saying prayers, and the actual burial process often provide needed support for the bereaved family. A Jewish Cemetery makes a statement about a community, the active Jewish life that was there and the close bonds people had with each other.

4. Disrespectful - After a typical Western cremation the remaining bone fragments are crushed and put into a container for the family to keep. But homes are not designed for long term storage and the remains may be discarded or forgotten. Cremation is at odds with the respectful way tahara (ritual washing) and kevurah (burial) are done. Our sages have compared a dead body to a torah scroll that could no longer be used - still deserving of maximum respect.

5. Environmental - Cremation uses less land than burial, but burial can help preserve the land it does use. For those of us who live in the city, or in the suburbs, or even in the country, preservation of open, green space may be a challenge. Developers are skilled at squeezing maximum usage from every inch of space. Cemeteries preserve open space and are difficult for developers to acquire. One future challenge is to make cemeteries more "green" or environmentally conscious.

6. Financial - Cremations often do cost less than burials. But, we can keep the cost of funerals and burials low by owning and managing our own cemeteries and by participating in community contracts, which can save thousands of dollars. We can also take a more active role in cemetery policies and advocate for plots with no liners and even advocate for elimination of caskets. In many places in the U.S. and Canada, Muslim communities have negotiated agreements with cemeteries that allow them to bury without caskets or liners. Most local jurisdictions allow these practices.

7. Genealogical - Cemetery markers are important for future generation visits and genealogical research. Think about the most permanent way to convey information. You could put information on a computer, a floppy disk, a video tape, an audio tape, a vinyl record or a piece of paper. What are the chances that 100 years from now that the information could be deciphered or that the media would still be readable? Take it to the most basic. A polished rock with an inscription - designed to last hundreds of years. Locate it in a protected area, a cemetery which we surround with a fence, prohibit the cemetery's development, and create rituals to maintain and to preserve it.

8. Historical - The first Jewish communal cemetery dates back to 1000 CE. In a 1000 year unbroken chain Jews have been buried in a Jewish Cemetery to let future generations know that a Jewish community existed. In the Prague Cemetery we see layers upon layer of Jewish burials. Historically a cemetery has been the first Jewish institution formed in a new community, before schools and synagogue. A tragic part of our history is the Nazi murder of millions of Jews. Many of us shudder when we hear the word "crematorium". How can we forget the horrible way so many of our relatives died? When we are buried in a Jewish cemetery, we preserve a part of the history of our community.

9. Intensity - The tradition of burial helps families work through their grief. K'vurah - filling in the grave is a startling, unusual action, that forces us to confront the reality of death. According to Maurice Lamm, "the heart-rending thud of earth on the casket is enormously beneficial. In proclaiming finality, it helps the mourner overcome the illusion that the relative still lives; it answers her disbelief that death has indeed claimed its victim; it quiets his lingering doubts that this may be only a bad dream."

10. Judaic - Jewish law and tradition is to be buried in the ground. Early in Genesis, Abraham buries Sarah. The other patriarchs and matriarchs are also buried. The words in Deut. 21:23 are "You shall surely bury him". In the Jewish tradition, the Chevra Kadisha (holy burial society) carefully and lovingly washes the body and dresses the body in tachrichim, simple white burial garments with no pockets. The Chevra Kadisha treats the body with the utmost respect. They ask for forgiveness if they have violated the person's privacy. This beautiful and profound ritual is usually not available for those who will be cremated.

https://www.dc.jewish-funerals.org/exploring-jewish-reasons-ground-burial-alphabetic-acrostic

Appendix D: Orthodox Takes on Cremation

Maurice Lamm, The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning (1969)

Cremation is never permitted. The deceased must be interred, bodily, in the earth. It is forbidden - in every and any circumstance - to reduce the dead to ash in a crematorium. It is an offensive act, for it does violence to the spirt and letter of Jewish law, which never, in the long past, sanctioned the ancient pagan practice of burning on the pyre...Even if the deceased willed cremation, their wishes must be ignored in order to observe the will of God. Biblical law takes precedence over the instructions of the deceased...Cremated ashes may not be buried in a Jewish cemetery... Shivah is not observed and Kaddish is not recited for them...

The Jewish Mourner’s Book of Why, by Alfred Kolatch, 1996

- Cremation is contrary to Jewish law. However, no law forbids the burial of ashes in a Jewish cemetery, though many Orthodox rabbis prohibit it.

- Rabbi Yekutiel Greenwald, in his book on mourning (Ach Le-tzara, p. 34, 1939), mentions the case of a Jew who lived among non-Jews and who feared that when he died, he would be buried in their cemetery. The Jew therefore left word that upon his death his body was to be burned. When the man’s wish became known, the Rabbis ruled that the wish was not to be honored because it is far better for a Jew to be buried among non-Jews than to be cremated. [Kolatch goes on to note that there is no problem with military funerals in national cemeteries.]

- Although there are instances in the Bible where cremation is seemingly considered to be an acceptable practice (1 Sam. 31:12, Amos 6:10), early rabbinic authorities considered it to be a violation of Biblical law. Their ruling is based on the statement in the Book of Genesis (3:19), “For dust are you, and to dust will you return”. This, say the Rabbis, means that the body itself must be returned to the earth from which it was formed. Additionally, some modern authorities consider cremation to be a pagan practice that harks back to the funeral pyre. Imitation of non-Jewish practices is forbidden in Jewish tradition.

- Most Orthodox authorities consider the burial of the ashes of cremation in a Jewish cemetery to be a violation of Jewish law. Rabbi Ben Zion Uziel (1880-1953), known as the Rishon Le-Tziyon, explains that the burial of ashes of cremation in a Jewish cemetery is prohibited because a Jewish cemetery is a sacred place, and to bury ashes there would be an act of desecration. While many authorities agree with this position, some rabbinic bodies, such as London’s Burial Society of the United Synagogue (Orthodox) and the Law Committee of the Rabbinical Assembly (Conservative), do permit the ashes of cremation to be buried in a Jewish cemetery. In this way, these organizations maintain, at least part of the deceased is being returned to the earth as demanded in Gen. 3:19. All Jewish authorities agree, however, that if a body has been accidentally incinerated, such ashes may be buried in a Jewish cemetery. The Rabbis compared the burning of a body to the burning of a Torah scroll. Just as the scroll that is burned must be buried in the ground, so must a corpse that has been burned in a fire be buried. When cremation is deliberate, traditional law forbids the burial of ashes of a corpse in a Jewish cemetery (Yoreh Deah 282:10).

- In traditional shiva practices, shiva is not observed for persons who have been cremated. Aside from the fact that cremation is a violation of the Biblical law requiring that the deceased be returned to the ground form which man was originally formed (Gen. 3:19), Judaism considers cremation to be a pagan custom and as such it is prohibited. The Rabbis insisted that the deceased be buried in the earth, and not disposed of in any other way (Sanhedrin 46b). Jewish law considers anyone who leaves instructions to have his body cremated as unworthy of having the rite of Shiva observed in his honor. However, many families today do observe Shiva in such an instance.

Appendix E: Conservative Takes on Cremation

The Observant Life, ed. Martin Cohen, 2012

Judaism regards the human body as a sacred trust from G-d that none has the right to desecrate or destroy, and this has been the view of Judaism since ancient times. Therefore, cremation, considered the ultimate expression of disrespect to the dead, is absolutely forbidden in all instances. In light of the Shoah, in the course of which millions of Jews were murdered and their bodies burnt to ash, the practice has taken on a new air of repulsiveness. Normally, cremated remains (occasionally called cremains) are not buried in a Jewish cemetery. There are, however, certain exceptions to this rule. For instance, in the cases of families who brought the cremated remains of beloved family members with them when they left the former Soviet Union, most rabbis, noting the complete repression of Jewish tradition under the Communists and the lack of alternative to cremation, have agreed that those remains be buried in dignified Jewish graves. More delicate is the situation that ensues when Jewish individuals leave specific instructions to their heirs that they wish to be cremated, often noting explicitly that they are aware of the fact that this is forbidden and they wish their bodies to be cremated nevertheless. The family of such individuals should be informed that they are not duty-bound to obey the wishes of their parents in this matter since cremation is explicitly forbidden under Jewish law and that Jewish tradition is completely clear that parents do not have the authority to instruct their children to violate halacha. In this way, every effort should be made to discourage cremation. If the heirs feel, however, that they cannot go against the specific instructions of an otherwise lucid, now deceased, parent, such cremated remains may be buried in a Jewish cemetery. This validates the ancient principle that the wishes of the dead are to be considered a sacred trust by the living (cf. the tradition ascribed to Rabbi Meir preserved in the Talmud at BT Ta’anit 21a and other places), but in such a way that precludes any possibility of the Jewish community appearing to condone a decision that tradition considers abhorrent and which the Shoah renders incomprehensible. A responsum by Rabbi Morris Shapiro permitting wide rabbinic discretion in dealing with issues relating to cremation and the disposition of cremated remains was adopted by the CJLS in 1986 and is published in CJLS Responsa 1980-1990, pp. 608-616 [and also here: https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/assets/public/halakhah/teshuvot/19861990/shapiro_cremation.pdf - DS].

A Guide to Jewish Religious Practice, Rabbi Isaac Klein, 1992, p. 275

The Jewish way of burial has been to place the body in the earth. Hence, cremation is frowned upon. The questions that arise in the case of cremation are:

1. Should the ashes be buried in the congregational cemetery?

2. Should a rabbi officiate at such a funeral?

A great number of authorities forbid the burial of ashes in a Jewish cemetery because this would encourage the practice of cremation (see Duda’ei Hasadeh, sec. 16; Machazeh Avraham, vol. 2, Y.D. 38; and Lerner, Chayei Olam). Others permit it and even permit a service at the burial (Rules of the Burial Society of the United Synagogue of London, quoted in Rabinowicz, A Guide to Life p. 29; see also Rabbi Eliyahu ben Amozegh, Ya’aneh Va’eish).

The Law Committee of the Rabbinical Assembly has ruled that cremation is not permitted. When it is done by the family in disregard of Jewish practice, a rabbi may officiate only at the service in the funeral parlor; the ashes may be buried in a Jewish cemetery and appropriate prayers may be said, but not by a rabbi, lest his participation be interpreted as approval (Rabbinical Assembly Proceedings, 1939, p. 156; Law Committee Archives).

Supplement on Mourning and Funerals, p. 531

Cremation is against the Jewish tradition, and the family of the deceased should be so advised by the rabbi. Should the family ignore the rabbi’s advice against cremation, the rabbi may (but need not) choose to officiate in the funeral parlor before the actual cremation. The ashes may be buried in the Jewish cemetery, but the internment should be private, without the presence of the rabbi. In the event that the rabbi’s ruling and advice have not been ignored, but, rather, that the rabbi is faced with a fait accompli, the rabbi may choose to conduct services at the cemetery.

Appendix F: Reform Takes on Cremation

CCAR RESPONSA (2006)

5766.2

When A Parent Requests Cremation

She’elah

A man, who is approaching death, has instructed that his body be cremated. His children are very uncomfortable with this request. They ask whether, under Jewish tradition, they are obliged to honor it, or are they entitled to bury him intact, in contradiction to his express wishes? Rabbi Solomon B. Freehof has ruled that in such a case we apply the Talmudic dictum “it is a mitzvah to fulfill the wishes of the deceased” (B. Gitin 40a and elsewhere). I wonder, however, if a more nuanced approach is better suited to a case such as this, where the children have strong religious objections to their father’s instruction? (Rabbi David Katz, Binghamton, NY)

Teshuvah

In the responsum that our sho’el mentions, Rabbi Freehof rules that “we should urge” the family to carry out a father’s wish to be cremated.[1] He acknowledges that the principle “it is a mitzvah to fulfill the wishes of the deceased” is not absolute; we are in fact forbidden to fulfill the wishes of the deceased if he or she instructs us to commit a transgression against Jewish law.[2] Thus, an Orthodox rabbi would surely rule against the request: “since cremation is contrary to Jewish law, the man’s wish contravenes the law and may not be carried out.” However, since the question has been posed to a Reform rabbi, “the answer cannot be so clear-cut.” For us, cremation does not necessarily “contravene the law”; the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) resolved in 1892 that “in case we should be invited to officiate” at a cremation, “we ought not to refuse on the plea that cremation be anti-Jewish or irreligious.”[3] Rabbi Freehof notes that there is no clear and obvious prohibition against cremation in the sources of Jewish law and that “the Orthodox agitation against cremation actually began about a century ago” in response to the growing movement toward cremation in Western societies. Indeed, “when one studies the (Orthodox) arguments adduced against cremation, one can see that they are forced.” On this basis, Rabbi Freehof concludes that Reform Jews can have no principled religious objections to cremation. In the instant case, unless the man’s family is Orthodox, we should counsel them to honor his instruction. “Surely, if we officiate at a cremation, we cannot refrain from fulfilling or encouraging the fulfillment of a man’s wish for this type of disposal of his body.”

We have quoted at length from Rabbi Freehof’s responsum because we do not want to minimize the challenge that faces us. Our sho’el is asking that we rule against our teacher, and we are ordinarily reluctant to do so.[4] We would argue, though, that the times demand a different response. For one thing, the situation is no longer “so clear-cut”; the Reform position on cremation is more complex today than it was when Rabbi Freehof wrote his teshuvah. We also think that our attitude toward the maintenance and encouragement of traditional forms of Jewish observance has changed quite a bit over the last several decades. For these reasons, we hold that the children in this case may well be entitled to act upon their own religious beliefs and not to fulfill their father’s request.

In order to make this argument, we shall have to consider, first of all, the attitude of Jewish law and tradition toward cremation as a means of the disposal of human remains. We shall then look at the developing Reform Jewish attitude toward cremation as expressed in the literature of the CCAR. Finally, we shall consider this particular case in the context of Jewish tradition, Reform Jewish practice, and the ethical obligations that the children may owe to their dying father.

1. Cremation in Jewish Law. There is no explicit requirement in the Biblical text that the dead be buried rather than cremated. The sources make clear that burial was the normative practice in ancient Israel,[5] but nowhere do we find an express prohibition of the burning of the corpse. The Rabbis understand burial to be a requirement of Torah law, derived from Deuteronomy 21:23.[6] Maimonides codifies the law as follows: “If the deceased gave instructions that his body not be buried, we ignore him, inasmuch as burial is a mitzvah, as the Torah says (Deut. 21:23), ‘you shall surely bury him.’”[7] Yet like the Bible, the Talmud and the classical halakhic literature contain no explicit prohibition of cremation. The subject seems almost never to have come up, most likely because cremation was simply not practiced by the Jews and no one thought to ask whether it was permitted or forbidden.[8] The silence lasted until the nineteenth century, “when cremation became an ideal that was agitated for through many societies in the western lands.”[9] At that time, the leading halakhic authorities condemned cremation as a transgression against Jewish law, an opinion that remains the consensus viewpoint.[10] This prohibitive opinion rests primarily on two halakhic grounds. First, cremation does not fulfill the commandment to bury the dead, based as we have seen on Deuteronomy 21:23. Burial of the cremains would not rectify this, since the mitzvah of burial applies to the body itself and not to its ashes.[11] Second, Jewish tradition mandates kevod hamet, that we treat the corpse with honor and respect, and it regards the burning of a body as an act of nivul (or bizayon) hamet, contemptible treatment of a corpse.[12] Other arguments include the prohibition against imitating Gentile customs (chukot hagoyim)[13] and the contention that cremation is tantamount to an act of heresy in that it denies the belief in techiyat hametim, the physical resurrection of the dead.[14]

These arguments may or may not be “forced,” as Rabbi Freehof describes them. Some of them may be more persuasive than others. What is certain, though, is that Orthodox authorities are united in the opinion that cremation violates traditional Jewish law, an opinion shared by Conservative[15] and Reform[16] writers.

2. Cremation in the Literature of the CCAR. Our Conference has published a number of statements with respect to cremation.

a. The 1892 resolution, referred to above, declares that “in case we should be invited to officiate as ministers of religion at the cremation of a departed co-religionist, we ought not to refuse on the plea that cremation be anti-Jewish or anti-religion.”[17] The resolution followed upon the report of a special committee, chaired by Rabbi Bernard Felsenthal, that had been appointed to study the issue. The report made two essential points. First, it demonstrated at some length that the practice of cremation was contrary to Jewish law and tradition.[18] Second, it sought to avoid the substantive issue of whether to endorse cremation as a method for disposal of human remains. “The writer of this does not wish to be understood that he pleads for cremation. He also does not oppose it.” Since a rabbi is not “a competent expert” in the matter of whether cremation is “preferable” to burial, the only motion “in order in a rabbinical conference” is one that calls upon rabbis, whatever their position concerning cremation, to provide pastoral care for those of their people who do choose the procedure.[19]

b. The 1961 Rabbi’s Manual, recounting the 1892 resolution, states: “Since that time, most Reform Jews have gone beyond this cautious tolerance and have accepted cremation as an entirely proper procedure. A number of leading Reform rabbis have requested that their bodies be cremated.”[20] In its section on funeral liturgy the Manual contains a prayer suggested for recitation when “the body is to be cremated.”[21]

c. The 1974 responsum of Rabbi Freehof discussed at the beginning of our teshuvah.

d. Gates of Mitzvah, a guide to Reform Jewish life-cycle observance published in 1979, stresses that “while both cremation and entombment in mausoleums are acceptable in Reform Judaism, burial is the normative Jewish practice.”

e. In1980 the CCAR Responsa Committee appended a comment to the 1892 resolution. It notes that the resolution “remains unchallenged policy within our Conference,” but adds: “In this generation of the Holocaust we are sensitive to terrible images associated with the burning of a body. Rabbis may, therefore, choose to discourage the option of cremation. The practice remains permissible, however, for our families.”[22]

f. The current Rabbi’s Manual, published in 1988, states: “We continue to stress that burial is the time-honored Jewish way of disposing of the dead… However, the practice of cremation has lately spread, for a number of reasons. We would reiterate that it ought to be discouraged if possible, especially in our generation which has seen the murderous dispatch of millions of our people by way of crematoria. If, however, cremation has been decided upon by the family, we should not refuse to officiate. It is suggested in such cases that the service be held at an appropriate place and not at a crematorium.”

g. A 1990 responsum notes: “Reform Jewish practice permits cremation… although… we would, after the Holocaust, generally discourage it because of the tragic overtones.”[23]

The record of these statements suggests a perceptible shift of attitude toward cremation within North American Reform Judaism during recent decades. While our earlier pronouncements accept cremation as permissible or even as “entirely proper,” the Conference since 1979 has pulled back from that affirmative stance. Although acknowledging that the 1892 resolution remains on the books and that Reform Jewish practice “permits” cremation, our more recent statements call upon rabbis to actively “discourage” the practice. This negative position is based upon two threads of argument: that burial is the normative traditional Jewish practice and that, after the Holocaust, cremation has become associated with one of the darkest periods in Jewish and human history.

These threads of argument, in turn, reflect two important transformations in the way that many Reform Jews have come to think about their religious lives and decisions. The first has to do with the positive reevaluation of “tradition.” In the past, the fact that a particular observance was “traditional” or accepted Jewish practice did not in and of itself recommend that observance to Reform Jews. Indeed, we were quite ready to dispense with any such practices that were “not adapted to the views and habits of modern civilization” and that “fail to impress the modern Jew with a spirit of priestly holiness.”[24] It is for this reason that Rabbi Felsenthal could argue both that cremation was a transgression against traditional Jewish law and that this fact was irrelevant to Reform Jewish thinking on the subject:

Joseph Qaro’s Code is of no obligatory authority to you. The Talmud is of no obligatory authority to you. Even the laws of the Bible as such are of no obligatory authority to you… Shall we for the sake of the living inquire of the dead? Shall we for the sake of the living open the old folios, and submit to what they have said hundreds of years ago under quite different conditions of life? Shall we learn there whether or not cremation is in accord with the spirit of Judaism?[25]

Rabbi Felsenthal’s words remain an eloquent expression of a central article of Reform Jewish faith. To this day, we affirm our right to define the “spirit of Judaism” and to abandon, alter, or replace old practices that we no longer find religiously meaningful. In this view, we cannot declare to Reform Jews that cremation ought to be forbidden solely because it runs counter to the halakhah or to the customs of our ancestors.

In recent decades, however, a new attitude has taken hold within our community. We have described it as follows:

(M)any of us have reclaimed ritual observances abandoned by previous generations of Reform Jews, from the generous use of Hebrew in the liturgy, to the wearing of kipah, talit and tefilin, to the dietary laws (kashrut), to the ceremonies surrounding marriage and conversion. These examples – and more could be cited – testify that our approach to traditional ritual practice differs significantly from that of our predecessors. This difference stems, no doubt, from the divergent religious agenda that we have set for ourselves. If our predecessors regarded their acculturation into the surrounding society as a predominant objective, we who benefit from the social and political gains that they achieved are more concerned with taking active measures to preserve our distinctive Jewishness. Thus, where they may have viewed many ritual observances as barriers to social integration and as obstructions to “modern spiritual elevation,” we may find them an appropriate and desirable expression of our Jewish consciousness.[26]

This is what we mean by the positive reevaluation of “tradition.” The point is not that traditional practices exert, to use Rabbi Felsenthal’s words, “obligatory authority” upon us. The point, rather, is that we take the Bible, the Talmud, and even “Joseph Qaro’s Code” more seriously than we did in his day as positive influences upon our own religious behavior. We are now more inclined than ever before to adopt or to preserve a ritual observance precisely because it is “Jewish.” We are more likely to regard a practice’s traditional pedigree as a reason for maintaining it, especially when there are no compelling moral or aesthetic arguments against that practice. We are therefore today more likely – though not obligated – to oppose cremation on the grounds that burial is a mitzvah, the “normative” Jewish way of disposing of human remains.

We might in a similar way explain our differences over whether cremation constitutes an act of nivul hamet (contemptible treatment of a corpse). A Reform Jew is certainly entitled to define this term in a way that is “adapted to the views and habits of modern civilization.” Cremation is widely accepted in Western culture as an honorable way of treating human remains. We are therefore under no obligation to regard it as an act of nivul hamet solely because some rabbinic texts portray it as such. Yet to say that we are not obligated to adopt the traditional definition does not entail that we are forbidden to do so. It is true that concepts such as “honor” and “disgrace” do not admit of objective definition. All this means, however, is that such terms can only be defined from within a particular social context; to reach these definitions, we must choose to work within a particular culture’s set of values and affirmations. The particular culture that is Jewish tradition declares the burning of the corpse to be an act of nivul or bizayon. A Reform Jew today who finds special and satisfying meaning in the values and affirmations of Jewish tradition is thus entitled – though, again, not obligated – to adopt this definition precisely because it flows from the religious and cultural heritage of our people.

The second transformation in our religious thinking concerns our sensitivity to the experience of the Shoah (Holocaust). There is, to be sure, all the difference in the world between the Nazi crematoria and the freely-made choice of cremation for ourselves and our loved ones. We should, moreover, be wary of invoking the memory of the Shoah as a facile justification for decisions concerning religious practice.[27] Yet for all that, the Jewish world is a different place now, “after Auschwitz,” than it was before. Neither we nor our religious consciousness has emerged unchanged from our confrontation with that event. And one such change, as the recent statements of our Conference affirm, has to do with our attitude toward the machinery of cremation. The images of fire, ovens, and smokestacks, which we recall so vividly when we contemplate the mass murder of our people, can and do persuade many liberal Jews that today, after Auschwitz, the consigning of our dead to the flames is not the proper Jewish way to honor them.[28]

We emphasize that we are dealing here with general trends. To speak of transformations in our religious thinking is to describe what is happening within large segments of the Reform Jewish community rather than to prescribe a correct course of action in a specific instance. Not all Reform Jews are affected in the same way by these trends, and not every Reform Jew will draw from them the same conclusions concerning his or her religious observance. As a noted jurist once remarked, “General propositions do not decide concrete cases.”[29] Yet in this particular concrete case, the Conference has moved decisively away from its previous acceptance of cremation. The members of this Committee reiterate this stance. Although we, like our more recent predecessors, continue to acknowledge that the 1892 resolution remains the formal policy of the CCAR, we would continue to call upon our rabbis to discourage the practice of cremation among our people. We do so for three primary reasons. First, burial is the normative traditional Jewish practice; as such, it is a mitzvah that exerts a strong persuasive force upon us. Second, we note the absence of convincing moral or aesthetic objections to the practice of traditional burial that would move us to abandon it.[30] Finally, we concur with our predecessors that today, after the Shoah, the symbolism of cremation is profoundly disturbing to us as Jews.

3. The Question Before Us. How should the children of whom our she’elah speaks respond to their father’s request? Considering all the above, we would counsel the following.

a. The North American Reform movement does not regard cremation as a “sin.” The 1892 resolution of the CCAR calls upon rabbis to officiate at cremation services, and despite our reservations concerning cremation, we hold that the procedure does not “contravene the law.” Therefore, the children are not forbidden to honor this request, and they may arrange for cremation in response to the mitzvah to honor our parents and to the dictum that we should seek to fulfill the wishes of the deceased.

b. Nonetheless, the children are not obligated to honor their father’s request. The CCAR discourages the choice of cremation; it supports the choice of traditional burial; and Reform thought today recognizes the right of our people to adopt traditional standards of religious practice that previous generations of Reform Jews may have abandoned. The commandment to honor one’s parents does not apply in such a case, for a parent is not entitled to compel his or her children to violate their sincerely held Judaic religious principles.[31] Thus, when a Reform Jew has serious and substantive religious objections to cremation, he or she may refuse a loved one’s request for it.

c. By “traditional burial,” we do not mean to endorse many of the practices that, although associated with burial in the public mind, would be deemed as excessive or inappropriate by many of us. Among these are such elaborate and unnecessary steps as embalming, expensive caskets, and the like. Jewish tradition emphasizes simplicity and modesty in burial practices; individuals should not feel driven to choose cremation in order to avoid the expense and elaborate display that all too often accompany contemporary burial.[32]

d. It is essential that families speak about such matters openly, honestly, and before the approach of death. When the child fails explicitly to say “no” to a parent’s request for cremation, the parent will justifiably think that the child has agreed to carry out that instruction. In such a case, the child quite likely has made an implied promise to the parent and thus bears an ethical responsibility to keep it. Therefore, if the children have objections to cremation, they should make their feelings known to their parents sooner – much sooner – rather than later.

https://www.ccarnet.org/responsa-topics/when-a-parent-requests-cremation/

American Reform Responsa #100, 1891

Though some might have considered the burying of the dead merely as a minhag (a custom), not as a mitzvah (an explicit law), it is certain that this minhag was very deeply rooted and was consecrated in the consciousness of the people, and such a minhag, such an unwritten law, is - according to very ancient Jewish legal principles - superior to the written law, and even supersedes it ("Haminhag mevatel et hahalacha"). It is further certain that since the eighth century all authorities, without exception, agree that kevura is one of the six hundred and thirteen commandments of the Torah. The first one who specified the six hundred thirteen commandments (which, according to a dictum of Rabbi Simlai, are prescribed in the Torah) was R. Simon of Kahira, and in his enumeration of the same he included also "likbor et hametim" (Halachot Gedolot, ed. Hildesheimer, p. 13).

Appendix G: Other Articles About Cremation

From "Judaism and the Human Body" by Rabbi Bradley Artson at https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/lets-get-physical/

Why is an impaled body an offense against God? Wouldn’t the humiliated corpse serve a valuable preventative function, since all who saw it would resolve not to commit a similar offense? If so, it should be a good thing to leave the body hanging. Besides, the person isn’t the same as the body anyway! The body is relatively unimportant, like a used set of clothing that no longer fits. So who cares about how the body is treated!

Apparently, the Torah doesn’t accept that trivialization of the body. Rashi adds to the Torah that, “It is a slight to the King [God] because humanity is made in the likeness of God’s image and Israel are God’s children.” This may be likened to two twin brothers who resembled each other; one became a king while the other was seized as a criminal and hanged. Whoever saw him exclaimed, ‘The king is hanged.'” This shocking comment implies that our resemblance to God is more than just spiritual, that even our bodies reflect the Divine Image, and therefore deserve reverence and respect.

In Midrash Va-Yikra Rabbah, the great sage, Hillel, compares keeping our bodies clean to maintaining a statue of a king. He comments that, “Bathing the body is an obligation, since we are created in the image of the Ruler of the world.”

For that same reason, Jewish tradition prohibits cremation as undignified to the body of the deceased, and Talmudic tradition affirms a physical resurrection of the dead. One need not share every Talmudic belief about the afterlife to recognize great wisdom in preserving a sense of awe and gratitude for the human body.

In an age awash in self-destructive drugs, too busy to exercise or to eat carefully, respect for our bodies is dangerously low on our agenda. Teenagers and women smoke in growing numbers, and alcohol use, too, is on the rise. Biblical and Rabbinic tradition maintain that our bodies reflect God’s image and therefore command respectful maintenance. In addition, our bodies are not our property, but God’s. We use them, as the tenants and stewards of God’s possessions. But ultimately, our bodies must be returned, well-tended, to their original Owner.

Jewish Views on Cremation

Taboo in Jewish tradition, but increasingly popular nonetheless.

BY MY JEWISH LEARNING

Jewish law mandates that human remains be buried after death, and this has been dominant Jewish practice for millennia.

Extensive sources from the Torah through the later rabbinic authorities attest to this requirement, and there is a powerful taboo against cremation reinforced by the millions of Jews burned in Nazi crematoria during the Holocaust. Nevertheless, as cremation becomes more common in mainstream society, the number of Jews opting for cremation appears to be increasing, forcing Jewish authorities to consider a number of related issues, including whether cremated remains may be interred in a Jewish cemetery and whether a rabbi may officiate at a funeral for someone who has been cremated.

Is cremation permitted by Jewish law?

Defenders of cremation point out that there is no explicit prohibition against cremation in Jewish legal sources. However there are prohibitions on defiling dead bodies and detailed procedures for handling them prior to burial — all of which appear inconsistent with the act of cremation. Proponents of cremation also point to biblical sources suggesting that Jews may have practiced the burning of dead bodies in ancient times.

Against that is a large body of Jewish literature that deals extensively with burial of the dead. In Genesis (3:19), God declares of man: “For dust you are, and to dust you shall return.” Deuteronomy (21:23) commands in the case of an executed criminal, “You shall surely bury him.” The requirement of burying the dead is explicitly codified in multiple later rabbinic sources as well, including Sanhedrin 46b, Maimonides’ Sefer Hamitzvot and the Shulchan Aruch.

Moreover, there are additional historical, cultural and spiritual arguments against cremation. According to the Jewish mystical tradition, the soul does not immediately depart the body after death, and the process of decay in the earth allows a gradual separation rather than the more immediate and painful one resulting from the burning of the body. Cremation was historically associated with pagan practices that Jews are repeatedly enjoined in the Torah to reject. And because the body is traditionally considered the property of God, it is forbidden to defile it, which some regard the willful burning of human remains to be.

For all these reasons, Orthodox and Conservative rabbinic authorities maintain that cremation is prohibited. The Reform movement has adopted conflicting positions on this question over the years, but the most recent rabbinic opinion on the subject states that while cremation ought to be discouraged, the practice is not considered sinful.

Can the remains of cremated Jews be buried in a Jewish cemetery?

Generally yes. Even in traditional communities, the fact that someone may not have adhered to Jewish law in their lifetime does not constitute grounds for their exclusion from Jewish burial grounds. Individual burial societies or Jewish cemeteries might decline to inter the ashes of a cremated body, in part as a deterrent to others who might also choose cremation. But there is nothing in Jewish law that bars them from burying ashes. Many Jewish cemeteries are known to bury ashes upon request , and the Reform movement has said explicitly that cremated remains of a Jewish person should be buried in a Jewish cemetery.

Can a rabbi officiate at a funeral for someone who was cremated?

It depends on the circumstances. According to a ruling adopted by the Conservative movement’s legal authorities in 1986, in a case where a family declines the advice of a rabbi not to cremate a family member’s remains, the rabbi should not officiate at the interment, but may choose to officiate at a ceremony prior to the cremation. If the family did not consult a rabbi prior to cremation, the rabbi may choose to officiate at the interment. The Reform movement does not object to its rabbis presiding over a funeral at which a cremation is to take place.

Does a deceased’s wish to be cremated have to be honored?

The Shulhan Arukh rules explicitly, citing Maimonides, that heirs must not respect the wishes of a deceased person not to be buried. While some rabbinic authorities differed on this point, contemporary Orthodox and Conservative authorities uphold the view that next of kin are not obliged to defer to the wishes of the deceased in such a case. The Reform movement has said that children are not forbidden from honoring a parent’s request to be cremated, yet neither are they obliged to do so if it contravenes their own religious principles.

Is cremation cheaper than burial?

Yes. According to a study from the National Funeral Directors Association, the median cost of a funeral in the United States in 2014 was $7,181, while cremation cost $6,078 — and could easily be far lower if certain services were foregone. However, given the importance traditionally accorded to Jewish burial, many Jewish communities have resources, such as free burial societies, to subsidize a traditional burial in cases where the family lacks sufficient financial resources. In addition, it is traditional Jewish practice to bury someone in a simple pine casket, rather than the more expensive types of caskets that funeral homes often market.

Is embalming permissible in Jewish tradition?

Embalming is the process of preserving human remains, often to enhance presentability for public viewing. As with cremation, embalming is traditionally viewed as inconsistent with Jewish practices surrounding death and burial. Embalming a body is generally seen as a form of mutilation of the dead body, while the whole notion of preservation runs counter to the tradition that the dead be buried quickly and in as natural a state as possible. However exceptions for certain embalming procedures are occasionally made in extenuating circumstances, as when it is required by law or if a body must travel overseas for burial.

https://www.myjewishlearning.com/article/judaism-on-cremation/

Confronting cremation

‘This conversation is difficult because it involves facing death.’

By Rabbi Regina Sandler-Phillips May 18, 2012

At first glance, the two sides of the Jewish cremation dilemma seem clear. Opponents deplore what they see as a violation of Jewish law, desecration of the body and callous indifference to the memory of the Holocaust.

Proponents claim that cremation is less costly and more ecological, and that it saves land for the living. Yet a closer examination reveals a much more complicated picture. We need a Jewish conversation that speaks to the realities of both cremation and burial. This conversation is difficult because it involves facing death — not the illusory death of movies and computer games, but real and inevitable mortality — and what it means for our lives.

Levayah, the Hebrew word for “funeral,” actually means “accompanying.” Whether we bury or burn, our willingness to accompany is usually quite limited. Between medical pronouncement and final disposition, our dead are typically wrapped up and taken away to preparations of which we have only the vaguest knowledge. It’s much easier to focus on the details of a product — an urn or a coffin, a memorial plaque or a headstone — than on honoring and protecting a body in transition.

Jewish funeral imperatives are derived from the biblical precept that even the corpse of an executed criminal deserves protection from desecration. Levayah also incorporates such traditional but still relevant principles as biodegradability (“To dust you shall return”), sustainability (“Do not waste or destroy”), simplicity and equality (“All should be brought out on a plain bier for the honor of the poor”). With this in mind, we can approach the questions about cremation that make it most problematic for Jews.

Is cremation a violation of Jewish law? Orthodox rabbinic authorities maintain that it is. Meanwhile, the Conservative movement in 1986 unanimously adopted a rabbinic ruling: “Even though our tradition has clearly developed a taboo against cremation, there is no explicit source in the Bible or in the Talmud against it.” That being said, the “sacred established tradition” of burial should be upheld, and “if the body has been cremated, there is still a positive mitzvah to bury the ashes.”

Two years later, Reform rabbinic leaders also went on record to discourage the scattering of cremated remains in favor of their burial. Unfortunately, these rabbinic decisions are at cross-purposes with the established regulations of many Jewish cemeteries, which forbid precisely such interment of cremated remains.

Is cremation a desecration of the body? While some world cultures have cremated their dead with the utmost reverence for millennia, it is crucial to understand North American industrial procedures. Bodies are warehoused before each one is incinerated at four-digit temperatures for two to three hours. Afterward, bone fragments and other residue are further pulverized before they are boxed and returned. The absence of family and community members is as stark as it is standard.

Mistakes do happen. At best, “ashes” returned may not actually be those of one’s family member. At worst, there is the risk of falling prey to one of the many scandals of real criminal desecration that surface regularly throughout the United States, to the devastation of surviving kin.

The dumping of about 300 decomposing corpses at a Georgia crematory was exposed in 2002. A New Hampshire crematory was shut down in 2005 after some 4,000 cremations, for violations that included com-mingled cremation, unlabeled remains and forgery. Trafficking in human body parts at several New York funeral homes left more than 1,000 bodies desecrated as of 2006. In the absence of protective levayah, anyone’s body is vulnerable to such crimes.

Is cremation more ecological than burial? “For most environmentalists, it’s actually better to fade away than burn out,” British journalist Leo Hickman has noted in the Guardian. “Our lives… already result in enough gratuitous combusting of fossil fuels. Much better, in death, to compost down as nature intended.”

The Centre for Natural Burial offers an extensive list of greenhouse gas emissions and other pollutants linked to crematories, and estimates that “the amount of nonrenewable fossil fuel needed to cremate bodies in North America is equivalent to a car making 84 trips to the moon and back… each year.”

There are also hard questions of environmental justice, since crematories — like other incinerators — are generally located in poorer communities. The Associated Press has reported on neighborhood campaigns to block the construction of new crematories in various states and countries, with particular concern for mercury emissions from dental fillings.

Does cremation save land? Given the prodigious consumption of nonrenewable energy, the air pollution and the global warming hazards involved, it’s difficult to make the case that cremation will safeguard “land for the living” in any truly sustainable manner for future generations.

Is cremation less expensive? Usually — assuming only direct transport from deathbed to crematory. Depending on the details of memorial service arrangements, though, costs may rival those of burial. Most significantly, as indicated previously, the ultimate environmental costs of cremation are much higher than the dollar amount paid by the individual consumer.

Does the choice of cremation reflect indifference to the Holocaust? Not necessarily. There is growing awareness that some Holocaust survivor family members quietly but deliberately choose cremation as an act of solidarity with murdered relatives. Sensitivity to this mostly unspoken way of working through the legacy of trauma should temper our public rhetoric.

This last question brings us to the crux of the issue. We need to speak with our families not only about our funeral requests, but also about what these requests really mean to us. A request for cremation may express kinship solidarity, or a fear that no one will visit or remember a grave. It may reflect a terror of enclosed spaces — which, given hours in an oven at extreme temperatures, the mechanics of cremation would not seem to assuage. It may represent a hope of easing the burden on our surviving family members, who may or may not see the request in the same way. It often involves a search for some means of avoiding the messy human need to grieve our losses.

Silence intended to spare the feelings of those we love often has the opposite effect at the end of life. The loving courage to speak about what really matters can strengthen our relationships. For our families and communities, as well as for the sake of our planet, it’s vital that we take this conversation to another level.

Rabbi Regina Sandler-Phillips is a chaplain, educator, and the director of Ways of Peace, which promotes community justice and kindness via mindful responses to human needs throughout the life cycle.

https://forward.com/opinion/156397/confronting-cremation/

Appendix H: Cremation in the Encyclopedia Judaica (2007)

Encyclopedia Judaica on the burial of ashes: (2007)

Chief Rabbi Marcus Nathan Adler of Britain, though opposed to cremation, permitted the ashes of a person who had been cremated to be interred in a Jewish cemetery in 1887. The decision was sustained by his successor, Herman Adler (1891), who quoted the authority of Rabbi Isaac Elhanan Spector. It was also the attitude of Chief Rabbi Zadoc Kahn of France. American Reform rabbis, in accordance with a decision made at the Central Conference of American Rabbis in 1892, are permitted to officiate at cremation ceremonies. Reform rabbis of Europe also often officiate at cremations. A regulation of the United Synagogue of London Burial Society states that "if the ashes can be encoffined, then internment may take place at a cemetery of the United Synagogue, and the Burial Service shall be conducted there at the time of the interment." Ultra-Orthodox communities, however, do not permit the ashes of cremated persons to be buried in their cemeteries.

- P. 281, Volume 5

Appendix I: Other relevant texts

וא"ר חייא בר אבויה כתוב על גלגלתו של יהויקים זאת ועוד אחרת זקינו דרבי פרידא אשכח ההוא גולגלתא דהות שדיא בשערי ירושלים והוה כתוב עילויה זאת ועוד אחרת קברה והדר נבוג קברה והדר נבוג אמר האי גולגלתא של יהויקים דכתיב ביה (ירמיהו כב, יט) קבורת חמור יקבר סחוב והשלך מהלאה לשערי ירושלים אמר מלכא הוא ולאו אורח ארעא לבזויי שקלה כרכה בשיראי ואותביה בסיפטא אתאי דביתהו חזיתה נפקת אמרה להו לשיבבתהא אמרי לה האי דאיתתא קמייתא היא דלא קא מנשי לה שגרתא לתנורא וקלתה כי אתא אמר היינו דכתיב עילויה זאת ועוד אחרת.

§ The Gemara cites another of Rav Ḥiyya bar Avuya’s statements. Rabbi Ḥiyya bar Avuya says: It was written on the skull of Jehoiakim king of Judea: This and yet another, indicating that he will suffer a punishment in addition to the punishment that he already received. The Gemara relates: The grandfather of Rabbi Perida, Rabbi Ḥiyya bar Avuya, found a skull that was cast at the gates of Jerusalem, and upon it was written: This and yet another. He buried it, and it then emerged from beneath the soil. He buried it and it then emerged from beneath the soil again. He said: This is the skull of Jehoiakim, as it is written in his regard: “With the burial of a donkey he shall be buried, drawn and cast beyond the gates of Jerusalem” (Jeremiah 22:19). He will find no rest in a grave. Rabbi Ḥiyya bar Avuya said: He is a king and it is not proper conduct to treat him contemptuously. He took the skull, wrapped it in silk [beshira’ei] and placed it in a chest [besifta]. His wife came and saw the skull, went out and told her neighbors and asked them what it was. The neighbors said to her: This is the skull of the first wife to whom he was married, as he has not forgotten her and he keeps her skull in her memory. That angered his wife, and she kindled the oven and burned the skull. When Rabbi Ḥiyya son of Avuya came and learned what she had done, he said: That is the fulfillment of that which is written about him: This and yet another.

Melamed Le-Ho'il, Yoreh Deah 114:2

It is certainly prohibited to burn a Jewish body after he has passed away, and this is for two reasons:

1. Because by doing this you will have nullified a positive mitzvah, as the Torah states: "Rather you shall surely bury him on that day." And it doesn't matter if you have the ashes; even if you are obligated to bury the ashes, you are no longer able to fulfill the mitzvah of burial, because when the Torah says to bury a body, it means to bury the entire body.

2. It is prohibited to burn a human body, because we see from the Torah and the Talmud that it is a great disgrace to the body to burn it. As we see in the verse in the prophet Amos, the story in tractate Sanhedrin about Yehoyakim's skull and that the sages of the Talmud allow us to violate Shabbat to remove a body from a burning building.

שו"ת דעת כהן יורה דעה סימן קצז

והרי מצינו שאסור לחקות את המינים

בכל דרכיהם...

Responsa Daat Kohen YD 197

And behold we have found that one may not mimic the heretics in all their ways...

Achiezer 3:72 (R. Chaim Ozer Grodzinksy)

According to the Beit Yitzchak, the reason is that the mitzvah of burial is something our great ancestors have involved themselves in, and one who buries their deceased has faith in the revival of the dead. And if one burns a body, it is as if he denies God's ability to bring back the dead.

Meiri ad loc

Anyone who requested not to be buried, we don't listen to him, because it is a mitzvah, and also it is a disgrace to the family should the corpse become odorous.

(ב) הָאוֹמֵר: אַל תִּקְבְּרוּהוּ מִנְּכָסָיו, אֵין שׁוֹמְעִין לוֹ, אֶלָּא מוֹצִיאִין מִיּוֹרְשָׁיו כָּל צָרְכֵי קְבוּרָתוֹ בְּעַל כָּרְחוֹ, וְכֵן כָּל מַה שֶּׁרְגִילִין לַעֲשׂוֹת לִבְנֵי מִשְׁפַּחְתּוֹ, וַאֲפִלּוּ הָאֶבֶן שֶׁנּוֹתְנִין עַל הַקֶּבֶר; וְהוּא שֶׁיָּרְשׁוּ מָמוֹן מֵאֲבִיהֶם.

(ג) אֲפִלּוּ מִי שֶׁאֵין לוֹ מָמוֹן שֶׁצִּוָּה וְאָמַר: אַל תִּקְבְּרוּהוּ, אֵין שׁוֹמְעִין לוֹ.

2. One who says: don't pay for burial out of his estate, we do not listen, but we take all necessary funds for the burial from the inheritors even against their will. Also, everything that is normally done for a family member, and even the gravestone; this is when they inherited money from their father.

3. Even one who has no money, who commanded and said "don't bury him," we don't listen to him.