Why do you think that the angel of God appeared to the woman rather than Manoach, her husband?
(א) בְּנֵ֖י יְהוּדָ֑ה פֶּ֧רֶץ חֶצְר֛וֹן וְכַרְמִ֖י וְח֥וּר וְשׁוֹבָֽל׃ (ב) וּרְאָיָ֤ה בֶן־שׁוֹבָל֙ הֹלִ֣יד אֶת־יַ֔חַת וְיַ֣חַת הֹלִ֔יד אֶת־אֲחוּמַ֖י וְאֶת־לָ֑הַד אֵ֖לֶּה מִשְׁפְּח֥וֹת הַצָּֽרְעָתִֽי׃ {ס} (ג) וְאֵ֙לֶּה֙ אֲבִ֣י עֵיטָ֔ם יִזְרְעֶ֥אל וְיִשְׁמָ֖א וְיִדְבָּ֑שׁ וְשֵׁ֥ם אֲחוֹתָ֖ם הַצְלֶלְפּֽוֹנִי׃
(1) The sons of Judah: Perez, Hezron, Carmi, Hur, and Shobal. (2) Reaiah son of Shobal begot Jahath, and Jahath begot Ahumai and Lahad. These were the families of the Zorathites. (3) These were [the sons of] the father of Etam: Jezreel, Ishma, and Idbash; and the name of their sister was Hazlelponi,
אִמֵּיהּ דְּדָוִד נִצֶּבֶת בַּת עַדְאֵל שְׁמָהּ אִמֵּיהּ דְּשִׁמְשׁוֹן צְלֶלְפּוֹנִית וַאֲחָתֵיהּ נַשְׁיָין לְמַאי נָפְקָא מִינַּהּ לִתְשׁוּבַת הַמִּינִים
The word tzel means "shadow." You might recall how Betzalel's name meant "in the shadow of God." It is a name that speaks to depth and santity. Tzel can also be understood as "angel.
Poneh can be understood as "to whom she turned"
T'lelponit's name refers to her merit. After all, the angel came directly to her rather than Manoah.
There is the general idea in the Torah that all the people are holy (Lev 19.1), but the Nazirite vow refers to a singular state that exceeds that. The Nazirite gives up three things: consuming alcohol, coming near dead persons, and cutting his or her hair. Why these three things? These three things are related to the priesthood - and particularly to the high priest. Israel's priests are forbidden to consume alcohol at the Tent of Meeting, and this is the first command in the Torah that God gives directly to Aaron, the high priest, not to Moses (Lev 10:9). Priests are forbidden to come to dead persons except their closest relatives (Lev 21:1-3).
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The issue appears to me to relate to the fact that the clergy in Israel is not open to most Israelites to choose, but only to members of the tribe of Levi by heredity... So what option does a person in the biblical world have who is drawn to the holy life of a priest but who is not a male Levite from the family of Aaron? Such a person can choose to be a Nazirite(!)
1) Are there moments in your life where taking on restrictions like these would have been meaningful?
2) Are there times when you feel the calling to go above and beyond, and demonstrate this publicly? What has/does that look like?
(ח) וַיֶּעְתַּ֥ר מָנ֛וֹחַ אֶל־יְהֹוָ֖ה וַיֹּאמַ֑ר בִּ֣י אֲדוֹנָ֔י אִ֣ישׁ הָאֱלֹהִ֞ים אֲשֶׁ֣ר שָׁלַ֗חְתָּ יָבוֹא־נָ֥א עוֹד֙ אֵלֵ֔ינוּ וְיוֹרֵ֕נוּ מַֽה־נַּעֲשֶׂ֖ה לַנַּ֥עַר הַיּוּלָּֽד׃ (ט) וַיִּשְׁמַ֥ע הָאֱלֹהִ֖ים בְּק֣וֹל מָנ֑וֹחַ וַיָּבֹ֣א מַלְאַךְ֩ הָאֱלֹהִ֨ים ע֜וֹד אֶל־הָאִשָּׁ֗ה וְהִיא֙ יוֹשֶׁ֣בֶת בַּשָּׂדֶ֔ה וּמָנ֥וֹחַ אִישָׁ֖הּ אֵ֥ין עִמָּֽהּ׃ (י) וַתְּמַהֵר֙ הָֽאִשָּׁ֔ה וַתָּ֖רׇץ וַתַּגֵּ֣ד לְאִישָׁ֑הּ וַתֹּ֣אמֶר אֵלָ֔יו הִנֵּ֨ה נִרְאָ֤ה אֵלַי֙ הָאִ֔ישׁ אֲשֶׁר־בָּ֥א בַיּ֖וֹם אֵלָֽי׃ (יא) וַיָּ֛קׇם וַיֵּ֥לֶךְ מָנ֖וֹחַ אַחֲרֵ֣י אִשְׁתּ֑וֹ וַיָּבֹא֙ אֶל־הָאִ֔ישׁ וַיֹּ֣אמֶר ל֗וֹ הַאַתָּ֥ה הָאִ֛ישׁ אֲשֶׁר־דִּבַּ֥רְתָּ אֶל־הָאִשָּׁ֖ה וַיֹּ֥אמֶר אָֽנִי׃ (יב) וַיֹּ֣אמֶר מָנ֔וֹחַ עַתָּ֖ה יָבֹ֣א דְבָרֶ֑יךָ מַה־יִּהְיֶ֥ה מִשְׁפַּט־הַנַּ֖עַר וּמַעֲשֵֽׂהוּ׃ (יג) וַיֹּ֛אמֶר מַלְאַ֥ךְ יְהֹוָ֖ה אֶל־מָנ֑וֹחַ מִכֹּ֛ל אֲשֶׁר־אָמַ֥רְתִּי אֶל־הָאִשָּׁ֖ה תִּשָּׁמֵֽר׃ (יד) מִכֹּ֣ל אֲשֶׁר־יֵצֵא֩ מִגֶּ֨פֶן הַיַּ֜יִן לֹ֣א תֹאכַ֗ל וְיַ֤יִן וְשֵׁכָר֙ אַל־תֵּ֔שְׁתְּ וְכׇל־טֻמְאָ֖ה אַל־תֹּאכַ֑ל כֹּ֥ל אֲשֶׁר־צִוִּיתִ֖יהָ תִּשְׁמֹֽר׃ {ס}
Is Samson truly a Nazirite?
Samson was not a full nazirite, for he did not vow to be a nazirite, but the malach separated him from ritual impurity. What was his law? He was prohibited from wine and prohibited from shaving, and permitted to become ritually impure for the dead; this is halachah by tradition. Therefore, one who says, “I am a nazirite like Samson,” is a nazirite from shaving and wine forever. He does not shave every twelve months like other eternal nazirites. He may become ritually impure for the dead… And one who vows to be a nazirite like Samson cannot repeal his vow, for the period of being a nazirite of Samson was eternal.
(טו) וַיֹּ֥אמֶר מָנ֖וֹחַ אֶל־מַלְאַ֣ךְ יְהֹוָ֑ה נַעְצְרָה־נָּ֣א אוֹתָ֔ךְ וְנַעֲשֶׂ֥ה לְפָנֶ֖יךָ גְּדִ֥י עִזִּֽים׃ (טז) וַיֹּ֩אמֶר֩ מַלְאַ֨ךְ יְהֹוָ֜ה אֶל־מָנ֗וֹחַ אִם־תַּעְצְרֵ֙נִי֙ לֹא־אֹכַ֣ל בְּלַחְמֶ֔ךָ וְאִם־תַּעֲשֶׂ֣ה עֹלָ֔ה לַיהֹוָ֖ה תַּעֲלֶ֑נָּה כִּ֚י לֹא־יָדַ֣ע מָנ֔וֹחַ כִּֽי־מַלְאַ֥ךְ יְהֹוָ֖ה הֽוּא׃ (יז) וַיֹּ֧אמֶר מָנ֛וֹחַ אֶל־מַלְאַ֥ךְ יְהֹוָ֖ה מִ֣י שְׁמֶ֑ךָ כִּֽי־יָבֹ֥א (דבריך) [דְבָרְךָ֖] וְכִבַּדְנֽוּךָ׃ (יח) וַיֹּ֤אמֶר לוֹ֙ מַלְאַ֣ךְ יְהֹוָ֔ה לָ֥מָּה זֶּ֖ה תִּשְׁאַ֣ל לִשְׁמִ֑י וְהוּא־פֶֽלִאי׃ {פ}
Peli can be understood in many ways. One definition can be "wonderous."' The angel was in shock that Manoach would have the chutzpah to ask him his name.
It can be "Hidden" meaning "my name is hidden from you."
Rabbi Yaakov Culi (1732) explains that calls himself "Peli," meaning that he is separate from others (just as a Nazirite separates himself from others, from wine, etc).
How do we, as Jews, grow in holiness?
If you ask a Nazirite (a Jewish ascetic), she might suggest not raising a glass in l'chayim
not joining in communal celebrations, and --if you are faced with a death in the family--
not even taking part in the funeral.
In essence
abstaining from the care, the connection we share.
Why in the world would a man or a woman in ancient Israel decide to become a Nazirite?
Knowing that the customary time limit in the Torah for the Nazirite vow was a thirty-day commitment,
in the light of today's practices it does not look as peculiar anymore.
Do you know anyone who has ever gone on a weeklong detox, cutting out whole food groups,
or maybe even a thirty-day cleanse?
The goal is to reboot the body, promoting a hormonal and psychological balance that can lead to inner renewal. The question is, at what expense does that happen?
Our teacher Rabbi Lawrence Kushner called us as Jews "a hopelessly communal people."
To become the human beings we must,
to grow in holiness, we need each other.
Feeding the hungry,
tending to the sick,
lifting up the fallen,
being there for our families,
we share the human care that brings our covenant
and God's presence to life.
What vow could be more valued,
more holy,
than that?
